This is kind of random, but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who mentioned the DivaCup in this community.. I read about it a couple months ago, ordered it and got it for $25 including s&h from this website:
http://www.tendertouchcare.com/product_info.php?cPath=27&products_id=261 (they give 10% off to new members), received it in 3 days and tested it out immediately. My first week had me fumbling with it, begging my poor vagina to take it even though it wasn't a friendly penis, or penis shape.. it was awkward then, but now, it's almost a cinch to put in and take out.. so I really love it and want to thank all of you for bringing it to my attention.
Now, however, I have a question. The women in my family have a history of ovarian cysts and other probs that cause very heavy bleeding during menstruation.. My aunt-aged 42- (whom i'd like to have try the DivaCup out) is a particularly heavy bleeder (soaking through overnights in a couple of hours), and she cannot wear tampons because they're useless for her. Would the DivaCup be a good solution? or is it likely that she'd have to empty and clean it too frequently for it to even be useful for someone like her??
Also, is there a certain minimum age for divacup wearing? Can someone who's just starting their period wear it for example, or is it recommended that it not be worn until someone has experienced sexual intercourse and is at least familiar with that area down there. Inserting the divacup is slightly more complicated than inserting a tampon (cause the damn thing keeps popping open if you don't have a good grip).
Oh, I have one more random question.. I keep reading everywhere that after childbirth, and as women grow older in general, the vaginal muscles grow more lax and stretch so that a woman loses her tightness. If one exercises one's kegals before and after pregnancy, is it possible to return to the tightness one had in one's youth? Also, does having strong kegals make delivery harder because the canal is much tighter requiring you to stretch more? I always figured that when women say that by the time their pushing out their 3rd or so child, it's not painful, I figured that it wasn't because they were used to it, but because their muscles grew more lax and aren't really fighting to stay tight, so they baby just slides forth from these lax muscles.. if there is some validity to that, wouldn't that mean that by keeping those muscles tight and "youthful," one is ensuring painful pregnancies for oneself?
Also, what gratification does a woman get from having tight vaginal muscles? Is the gratification solely for her male partner???