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Each Monday, we bring you special, maintainer-curated content intended to enrich your VP experience. Please note that you can find past MMMMonday posts using the mmmmonday tag.

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We've just announced new VP Safe Space Maintainers! Check out our MMMMonday Special Edition for the list of our awesome volunteers.


The UN declared February 20th the World Day of Social Justice. Their site tells us, "Social justice is an underlying principle for peaceful and prosperous coexistence within and among nations. We uphold the principles of social justice when we promote gender equality or the rights of indigenous peoples and migrants. We advance social justice when we remove barriers that people face because of gender, age, race, ethnicity, religion, culture or disability."

To celebrate WDSJ, we asked some folks to tell us a little bit about a social justice issue that's important to them.

    [livejournal.com profile] kaberett

    I am active with social justice issues, but at times, I am made an example of without my consent. Oh god, have you been in an accident, my lecturer asked me, Friday morning. "Er," I said. "No." Where by "my lecturer", I mean "the professor I was demonstrating/TAing a practical for". Of questions to be asked in front of my undergraduate students, that one is not on the list of my favourites: it's intrusive, it's undermining, and it's just thoughtless. Because: my wheelchair is very obviously not a Standard NHS Chair. Because: the last thing I want when I'm supposed to be teaching undergrads about geochemistry is to find myself teaching lecturers about disability. Because: the power dynamic is such that I can't tell them how rude they're being, I can't look offended, and I just have to smile sweetly and pretend I'm fine to answer their questions about my complex, variable medical conditions, and hope like hell that my supervisor having my back about my ability to do my work is enough.

    The visibility of my disability means that I have little space for the intersection of my gender identity; this is why I'm not even trying to get work colleagues to use the correct pronouns for me.


    Charlie S. / @charlosjackson

    Something that's important to me, as a person of color in the USA, is really looking at the structural and institutional instances of racism. It's really easy to point out interpersonal racism, but when you look at things like Hurricane Katrina, or which school districts get more funding, you end up seeing that there are very real structural problems that contribute to the oppression of certain people. As a healthcare worker in a free clinic, I see how much more we have to do with less resources, and our patients are mostly people of color and are lower income, and they don't have access to a shiny private practice doctor who can spend a ton of time with them whenever they need it. I believe in the doctors that I work with, and I believe that they provide good care, but there are certain things that are just limited because of our limited funding and resources. A person shouldn't have to wait for several hours just because they don't have the access to a private doctor. For example, our clinic is located on the Upper East Side of New York City, which is a very high-income, very white area, but most of our patients come from East Harlem, which is the opposite. This disparity is basically structural racism in action.


    [livejournal.com profile] mangofandango

    I always wonder if the waiter at our restaurant will think that we are just picky eaters. Food service folks, waiters and restaurant owners alike, are often doubtful of the legitimacy of motivation behind the questions we ask about ingredients, and one local restaurant owner even told a local paper that he "plays a game" where he guesses the "real motivation" behind customer's stated dietary needs. My daughter has severe food allergies. I really need for people like that restaurant owner to hear that, and answer my questions truthfully and completely, without second guessing...because her life is potentially at stake if he decides maybe she just doesn't like eggs and it's not a big deal. He may feel justified, because he says he's had experiences with folks who overstate or lie about their allergies. But to operate as if most people are probably liars harms everyone. People with disabilities and chronic illness don't always "look" like they have those things, just as, for example, those who've suffered trauma don't always wear it on their sleeves. A foundation of social justice is believing people when they talk about their bodies, experiences, abilities, and limits. Failing to do so erodes consent, empathy, and safety for those who often need it most.


    Eva Sweeney

    One of the awesome things about the LGBTQ movement is that it brings together people from all walks of life. We all work toward a common goal and that unites us. However, in my personal experience, disability and queerness are not talked about. Queer people with disabilities often don't have the opportunity to meet and talk to their peers because they are isolated at home, or because queer events are not accessible for them. Sadly, the disabled community tries to silence its queer members. When I was trying to find information on LGBTQ and disability, I called many disability organizations and was either denied or hung up on. The queer community was more friendly, but still had little information for disabled people. There are few spaces where queer people with disabilities can meet and share stories. One such place is a group on Facebook called Queerability. Over the last 15 years since I have come out, more and more resources for disabled queers have been popping up, and that's awesome! But we still have a lot of work to do to get both the disabled community and the queer community to recognize the intersection that exists, and that we are vital parts of both.


    Milly Allen (One of our new SSMs!)

    Voter suppression is one of the most terrible social injustices, because it prevents the correction of other social injustices. It’s used to influence an election by discouraging people to vote. Usually manifest in tricksy-yet-legal action, my (least) favorite suppression techniques include: repressive registration and absentee ballot laws, and strict voter ID laws.

    How does this influence elections? You can only vote if you’re registered. If you’re registered, you can only vote if you can get to the polls. If you’re registered and can get to the polls, you can only vote if you can wait in line. If you’re registered and can get to the polls and wait in line, you can only vote if you have the proper ID.

    This disenfranchises too many people, including the senior, minority, student, low income, and disabled brackets -- people who may not have cars or maintain driver’s licenses, or have jobs that allow them to get to the polls and wait there. These people are students who should have a say in the cost of state tuition. They are low-income folk who cannot afford to have the incumbent unseated, because their food stamps and Head Start programs would get cut.

    Google “voter registration [your state/country/province/alien planet]” to find out how you and your friends can register -- absentee ballots, if you’re eligible, make it much easier. Then vote!


Social justice is a crucial part of VP. Sometimes, people ask us why we highlight a certain social justice issue, saying that a particular issue like racism or disability doesn't have anything to do with VP's usual topics of sexual & reproductive health. Even in these short blurbs, we see how different areas of oppression intersect and affect each other. People who experience oppression often have a harder time accessing healthcare, or they might not be able to find a provider who is sensitive to their needs. These intersections of oppression make it harder to access resources, find community, or advocate for yourself. Knowing more about these intersections helps us all make VP a safer space where we can support each other through a broader understanding of social justice.


Superstars, what social justice issues are important to you? What do you think of the connection between Safe Space and social justice?
[identity profile] ruthlessangel.livejournal.com
Hello all! :)

First question: Are depression and being just ridiculously tired all the time side effects of POPs? I can't find the little pamphlet thing and I am failing at the internet lately. v_v

Second question: This is kind of a general question so I can remove it if need be but I see the term 'cismale' and 'cisfemale' a lot here and in other comms and I've honestly got no idea what they refer to! I have looked it up online but I feel like the definitions I'm getting are confusing me more than clarifying and I was hoping someone could shed some light on it for me as I really just want to understand the terms. XD I feel silly for not knowing/understanding.

Thank you so much in advance.
[identity profile] ms-douchebag.livejournal.com
I feel like I'm being an asshat for writing this, but it's been on my mind lately...

Why does the concept of "having balls" have connotations of courage/strength?

I think it's quite interesting that the phrase is so common. As a woman struggling with the functions of my sexual organs, I think it makes no sense whatsoever. Having testicles is certainly vulnerable, but I think it's safe to assume that a woman goes through more suffering throughout her life due to her ovaries and uterus than a man experiences with some shots to the nuts. How many times in his life does a man receive a blow to his testicles? Often enough for his tastes, I am quite sure. And based upon the observable reactions, it's clear that the contact is quite painful. But the pain will go away, and the balls will recover relatively soon.

I'm happy with my sex organs--I think their hidden nature adds a bit of mystery to my anatomy. I like being a woman. I believe that our organs undergo so much more stress with their functions. The pain and stress of periods, every single month, for decades. Not only do we swell and stretch in order to produce children, we carry them around for nine months. And after that feat, we must somehow let them out of our bodies through our vaginas. We have to deal with painful changes in our breasts, whether due to the menstrual cycle or childbirth. And then menopause.

I'm certainly not complaining about being a woman. I feel quite strong as I survive the antics of my body. I believe, however, that the expression of "having balls" is ridiculous, taking the female situation into perspective. I've been trying to replace "having balls" with "having a uterus" in my everyday speech, because it tells of such struggles which the testicles can only dream about. What's so tough about balls anyway? Sure, it takes strength to be vulnerable, but once hit, the owner of the pair curls up on the floor. What do women do with our organs? We continue to have children. That's what. Birth control, smirth control. It's a well needed break.

I have one tough uterus.
[identity profile] rotf-lmao.livejournal.com
Okay, my second post for the night. Please don't throw things ;) It's just that I'm kind of flabbergasted about this recent event in my life and I'd like to get the VP take on things. :)

ExpandCut because, well....my profs call me 'wordy' )
[identity profile] queensugar.livejournal.com
Hey hey, superstars!

Just to clarify any potential confusion, I'm posting right now as Melissa-member, not Melissa-maintainer.

One thing that's come to my attention lately is that, due to the fact that we have a majority American memberbase here on VP, some of the terminology tends to be American-centric.

In practice, this can lead to confusion. In particular, the frequent use of the word "gynecologist" can be confusing for some non-American members.

How does that work?

ExpandLet's explain! )

(By the by, I freely admit that health care access procedures may vary somewhat between Canadian provinces; if what I've said doesn't reflect your province's access procedures, please speak up!)

On that note, I should add that I believe that other countries with universal health insurance have similar procedures regarding accessing gynecologists and reproductive health care.

So, let's open up this post for more input! What's the typical way to access reproductive health care in your country? Are there any other differences you'd like to see members be more aware of in VP? Include as much detail as you like!
[identity profile] amyranth.livejournal.com
I saw a reference to this in an answer to somebody else's post, but for the life of me, I cannot remember precisely what the reference was to/for.

So, fluid bonding. What is it?
[identity profile] hikerpoet.livejournal.com
People used the phrase "going commando" A LOT in the the recent post about wearing underwear to bed, and on this community in general, and it got me thinking. I've known most of my life that going commando meant going without underwear, but I was always really confused about the origin of the phrase. It seemed weird to me. What do my underpants have to do with G.I. Joe?

I googled and asked around and came up with several explanations. Everyone knows you aren't supposed to wear underwear under a kilt, and the kilt was battle wear. This could also explain why this phrase was way more popular in Great Britain than in the U.S. for a long time. Research also seems to find that soldiers in other countries and/or regiments (regardless of kilt status!) often don't wear underwear because it is just another thing to carry and clean in addition to the fact it can bunch up and/or limit movements during complicated operations.
There are some more indirect theories, as well. When you don't wear underwear you are "ready for action". In this sense, it is meant in a risque manner, but soldiers always have to be ready for action as well, in a different way. Also, when you go with out underwear, you are "taking command" of the decision, not caring what anyone else thinks (or may get a peek of!).

But from what I could find out, these are just theories, and no one seems to know if there is a definite root of the phrase or if it is a combination. Has anyone heard any other theories? Also, sometimes "going commando" seems to refer to going completely naked (not just underwear) and I couldn't find any theories for that, unless it just evolved/transitioned into that.

I figure at best, we can come up with some other interesting theories, and at the least, this post can help other people who were confused like I was (unless it was really obvious and I was the only one wondering and this gets deleted). Any ideas, word and vagina lovers?
[identity profile] evilpinkbear.livejournal.com
Ok, this might be sort of odd, but I have a question:

What does your vagina smell like?
I mean, how would you describe it?
(The conversations I get into with friends when we're running low on sleep...)
We can't figure out what sort of words would describe it.

Sweet? not quite...but not not.
Sour? hopefully not
One suggested mushroomy, or woodsy, but I don't see those one being right, unless something was wrong...

How would you define this delicate bouquet? *snicker*
[identity profile] ruxpinrumble.livejournal.com
Hi everyone, just wanted to say I love this community and everyone's kind and helpful words. VAGPAG ROCKS!

Anyway, I'm having a bit of a dilemma... what "sexual acts" qualify as "all the way" sex? I was always under the impression that sex was when sexual organs/orifices come into contact (like mouth to vagina, penis to anus, etc etc), yet some friends of mine believe that fingering (between couples) qualifies as sex, too. And then I've had friends who say that oral doesn't qualify. Or that anal doesn't. Its all really confusing.

My question is... what do you call sex? I'm not asking for a serious, technical definition or anything (but that would help out A LOT), and I'm not trying to pull a Bill "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" Clinton.... I was just curious.

Thank you all, this community really makes me happy to be a woman.

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Feb. 3rd, 2005 11:01 pm
[identity profile] maidden.livejournal.com
Under the request of a friend:


Ok.. It's something that has been bugging me. Probably stupid but here it goes.. When people see architecture or art that resembles a penis that say that it's phallic. Like the Washington monument.

What is the term you would use for the same concept but resembling a vulva? For example every Georgia O'Keefe painting? Or the brain bug alien from the movie "Starship Troopers"?

Any ideas?

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