[identity profile] oroitadeisaso.livejournal.com
Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here, despite stalking watching the community for quite some time.

For people that wax, have you really noticed any differences in how long it takes hair to grow back (versus other methods), and/or any difference in how thickly/coarsely the hair grows back after removal?
My hair tends to be quite thick and coarse, so when I shave, I can still see little dark-blonde stubs beneath the skin. And any smoothness only lasts a few hours. So I've never been that invested in keeping my body hair in check. I tend to just let everything grow until it starts to annoy me, then I whack it off and repeat the process. But I want to surprise my bf, so I'd like to remove the hair from my lower body. From my pubic area down to my toes. And I'd like to DIY it, in a minimum of time.
I'm considering waxing, but any recommendations on the method? Pain is not an issue for me, and I have no health or skin problems.

Also, MSN keeps trying to tell me that I shouldn't turn down my bf for sex (even going to the point of saying "do it anyway") because women are happier when they have sex often. All kinds of benefits are attributed to doing so: sleeping better, having less stress, higher libido, etc.
Has anyone noticed this kind of phenomenon? It sounds somewhat misogynistic to me...

Thank you in advance!

EDIT: I seem to be unable to add any tags (or maybe I'm doing it wrong?)
[identity profile] temporary-title.livejournal.com
Hi, I am worried. I am seeing this guy who I used to see before.

He was the only person I have ever had finish inside of me. When we used condoms it was fine but when we stopped the next morning I would wake up with a terrible headache and eventually vomit multiple times. (I seem to vomit after walking/driving/moving...its almost a dizzy feeling followed by vomit along with the headache.) This headache usually lasts MOST of the next day and I can't do anything.

The rest of my body feels completely normal. There is no change with my vagina what-so-ever. 

I am seeing him again and the exact same thing happened again.

I looked into semen allergies and it seems to say that the vagina is red or swollen. but i have NO changes at all. I don't even have cramping or anything in my stomach.

And oddly enough if I swallow his cum I do not get sick the next day.

I am on birth control and have been on the same kind for years.
Any idea what this is? Ever heard of anything like this before?
I just want to fix it and not have to worry about it anymore.

Thanks everyone for any help/info you may have!
xoxo
[identity profile] cherrycherimoya.livejournal.com
For the past several months, I've been experiencing an extremely frustrating loss of sexual sensation. My sex drive is still really, really high, I have no trouble getting wet, and I'm generally the initiating partner, but actual stimulation feels like...nothing. It's almost like my clitoris and vagina are numb. My partner plays with my clit and he might as well be fondling my elbow. Obviously I have an intellectual understanding that there's a penis in my vagina, but from a physical standpoint, it doesn't feel like it. I used to come at least once virtually every time I had sex (I've even reached orgasm through nipple stimulation and kissing in the past), and now I think I've reached orgasm from partnered sex (PIV or oral) twice in the past four months, having sex at least three or four times a week. I've been with the same partner for the past six years.

I have a Hitachi Magic Wand, and I'm paranoid that I have permanently damaged something through excessive use, or at least accustomed my body to an intense level of stimulation that's impossible to replicate without toys. I've tried to self-impose a moratorium on the vibrator in case it's the culprit, but I get so frustrated not being able to get off from sex that I end up reaching for it afterward. However, I've found that it's even become difficult to get off using the vibrator. And I've never been very good at reaching orgasm through plain old masturbating-by-hand, and at this point it takes so much time and external stimuli (porn or erotica) that it's not worth the effort.

I was thinking part of this was due to the fact that my partner has not been trying very hard lately, but I brought up my concerns to him and he began making more of an effort to provide prolonged, intense stimulation and really put a lot of time into getting me super aroused, but despite this, I still couldn't get off.

I'm not on any medication or birth control, I've never been pregnant, I don't have any issues with sexual activity (I would say I'm less sexually inhibited now than I've ever been), and I would say my general stress level is at an all-time low. I don't understand what could be causing this or how to fix it--does anyone have any insight?
[identity profile] jocelina.livejournal.com
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First off, I'd like to say that I love this community for being so informative as well as non-judgmental. Even so, as it relates to my problem, I'm making this post anonymous because I am very insecure about this issue. I'm looking forward to any advice :)

Ok... where to start. I'm 21 years old and ended a 5-year relationship 4 months ago. He is the only guy I've slept with but I'm ready to move on - not necessarily date but I want to have some fun. There have been a few guys I have been interested in on a sexual level but I wasn't able to bring myself to sleep with them. It's like even though I want to, I feel like I'd be doing something wrong. Once when I came home from a party pretty late around 5am, my mom sat me down the next day and said that if I keep going out all the time that men are going to start thinking of me as "something with a lot of mileage on it". I was brought up in a strict Catholic household but for some time now I have rejected all of it and have no regrets in feeling that way so I'm not sure if this is what's holding me back. I just want to experience some kind of sexual freedom... and the reason I've made this post anonymous is because I kind of feel like a whore for feeling this way. I'm worried what people will think mainly.

I guess what I'm asking is... especially for people who enjoy sex with people who aren't your significant others whether it be randoms or friends with benefits, how do you feel comfortable with yourselves going through with it? I saw a post a while ago where people were saying how many PIV partners they had and I have so much respect for you and I truly admire you! I wish I could be like that... I mean I'm not looking to have sex with everyone in the world but when the time feels right, I don't want to turn it down because I have a ridiculous notion of my "self-worth" being downgraded.

Thanks so much, VPers!
[identity profile] savethename.livejournal.com
Here's the deal:

Lately my boyfriend and I have not been having sex as much as I would like. I don't even consider myself above the norm, as a female, in her sexual drive... so the fact of the matter is, we're two young people and we don't have sex (as in intercourse) very much.

I only see him maybe 4 times a week, max, and we have sex maybe 1-2 times max, and lately, not even at all. I think the last time we had sex was over a week ago.
We've only been dating a couple of months, and when we first started dating, he seemed a lot more interested in touching me and starting sexual encounters, but not as much anymore.

The only thing he really blamed it on was stress. I guess he's sort of blaming me because I do tend to nag him about stuff, and he says he feels he has to get defensive against me, and that he disappoints me or doesn't "do things right". :/ I feel bad for being obnoxious about stuff sometimes, but he's already 25, and I'm 21, and he needs to get his act together.

Oh also, sidenote: He told me at the beginning of our relationship that he has low testosterone for a guy. Like he's had it checked out and everything... but that doesn't really change the fact that we had more sex a month ago than we do now.


*EDIT TO ADDRESS COMMENTS*
You guys have given me a WHOLE lot to think about.


In regards to my statement about him needing to get his act together: its nothing serious, as someone was asking about. It IS more a matter of where he is in his life right now-- still hasn't finished college, working a crappy, low-end job, not physically active, unhealthy habits (food and drinking and smoking). I am not perfect in these regards by any means. I drink, too, and I don't always eat healthy, but he has stated to me that he IS unhappy with all of these things... yet he doesn't seem to do much to change his situation. His apartment is a total mess, its kinda gross actually, but he never cleans it! He has had depression before, and has some pretty OCD tendencies, so I think its just a vicious cycle he puts himself in.

The things that make him sad about his life are the things I "nag" him about changing. I really don't want to offend him any more on these fronts, and (even though it sounds totally cliche) I nag him because I care about him. I WANT him to get past these road blocks in his life, I want him to finish school and get a better job and clean his apartment etc etc. But I do understand its starting to become this sort of "parent-child" dynamic as someone mentioned, and that is very unsexy (to most anyway. hah)

Also: our relationship wasn't and isn't (obviously) being held together by sex. I genuinely really like (even love) the guy! He's smart, funny, and a really nice person. We go out together or stay in together sometimes... its just that I often feel unwanted by him for his lack of interest in sex, and also since he's so used to having his "me time" because I'm his FIRST girlfriend. So he doesn't want to be around me all the time, whereas I'm very used to spending a LOT of time with boyfriends.
[identity profile] denialfeelsgood.livejournal.com
I tsrated a new pill two weeks ago, and it has been hell, headaches, dizziness, severe depression, on and fo crying, cramping and bleeding. Well I have been bleeding for the last week or so and my SO and I really wanted to have sex and we dont when im on my period because of the mess, so I used an instead cup, and he kept saying he could feel it, and my partner is of average size. I know it was in far enough because i could feel my pubic bone, and it worked great as far as no mess was concerned.

Which brings me to the next thing, I was panning on switching to the nuvaring this week when i go back in, and I am affraid that if he could feel the instead cup, that he will also be able to feel the nuvaring. Could i have a 'short' vagina?
Any speculations? Help? Advice?
[identity profile] burned-rose.livejournal.com
I'm hoping someone can help me and my boyfriend. It's a very male centric post about my sex life with my boyfriend. But I'm hoping you guys can give a little insight.

a little long, so I put it all behind a cut. it's about our sex life )

It hurts me deep, it really does, and I don't know how to deal or what to do. I've contemplated suicide more times than I can count...cause it really impacts me so much.
What can I do? Can I help him out?
[identity profile] neverfinding.livejournal.com
hello there,

so...i have body image issues.  not too serious, like, i love my body a lot of the time (i learned the hard way that hating my packaging is a total waste of time), but it's definitely unconventionally beautiful.  so i have moments of insecurity.  specifically, when getting naked in a sexual context.  eep!  my boyfriend is awesome, very complimentary and appreciative of my body.  but...his body is extremely beautiful, in a conventional way, and i feel really intimidated.  i constantly doubt his attraction to me, like, i notice when he doesn't compliment me in a particular session. :-(  it's terrible.  what i would not give to be gutsy and confident and 100% comfortable in my skin!

what are your experiences with body image and being sexual?  how, if at all, have you been able to let go of the idea that you have to look a certain way?  what advice do you have for me?

thanks <3

 
[identity profile] ever-abstract.livejournal.com
Hello vulva-loving superstars.

I gave birth two months ago. I did everything I was supposed to by way of pelvic-floor toning but when push came to shove and my 20-hour home birth was nearly over, I pushed my baby out so hard and so fast that I tore. The midwives and I decided not to place any stitches and just let it heal on its own. The tear itself is really only about an inch and a half long, and it's pretty jagged. Now, everything is healed up and to my knowledge, everything is fully functional. However, I am terrified of having sex again. Don't get me wrong- I want to, badly. It's just that the scar tissue from the tear makes the tissues feel so firm, like they have absolutely no give anymore and I'm scared of the logistics. Prior to babyage, I had some pain when having sex with my husband because there's also a bit of a size issue there.

How does one get over this? How does one function normally sexually again? Can anyone relate to this?

TIA.

(PS- I checked the history and I couldn't find anything like this. If there is something I missed, please link me and I'll read away)

Safe Word

Aug. 16th, 2007 08:44 pm
[identity profile] wish-you-would.livejournal.com

I have a question and this is the first place I thought to post it.  When you start getting into more BDSM stuff (for lack of a better term right now, I'm having a brain fart), what do you use as a "safe" word (to seriously stop it, I'm not liking this)?  My partner and I are having a hard time coming up with something that doesn't sound silly (like pineapple or whatever) and something that we'll both remember and I was looking for some suggestions...  Any ideas?  Please?  Or is this totally off topic?  Feel free to delete if it is...  Thanks again as always!

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