vaginapagina | Bad sex life? (Reply)

Here's the deal:

Lately my boyfriend and I have not been having sex as much as I would like. I don't even consider myself above the norm, as a female, in her sexual drive... so the fact of the matter is, we're two young people and we don't have sex (as in intercourse) very much.

I only see him maybe 4 times a week, max, and we have sex maybe 1-2 times max, and lately, not even at all. I think the last time we had sex was over a week ago.
We've only been dating a couple of months, and when we first started dating, he seemed a lot more interested in touching me and starting sexual encounters, but not as much anymore.

The only thing he really blamed it on was stress. I guess he's sort of blaming me because I do tend to nag him about stuff, and he says he feels he has to get defensive against me, and that he disappoints me or doesn't "do things right". :/ I feel bad for being obnoxious about stuff sometimes, but he's already 25, and I'm 21, and he needs to get his act together.

Oh also, sidenote: He told me at the beginning of our relationship that he has low testosterone for a guy. Like he's had it checked out and everything... but that doesn't really change the fact that we had more sex a month ago than we do now.

*EDIT TO ADDRESS COMMENTS*
You guys have given me a WHOLE lot to think about.

In regards to my statement about him needing to get his act together: its nothing serious, as someone was asking about. It IS more a matter of where he is in his life right now-- still hasn't finished college, working a crappy, low-end job, not physically active, unhealthy habits (food and drinking and smoking). I am not perfect in these regards by any means. I drink, too, and I don't always eat healthy, but he has stated to me that he IS unhappy with all of these things... yet he doesn't seem to do much to change his situation. His apartment is a total mess, its kinda gross actually, but he never cleans it! He has had depression before, and has some pretty OCD tendencies, so I think its just a vicious cycle he puts himself in.

The things that make him sad about his life are the things I "nag" him about changing. I really don't want to offend him any more on these fronts, and (even though it sounds totally cliche) I nag him because I care about him. I WANT him to get past these road blocks in his life, I want him to finish school and get a better job and clean his apartment etc etc. But I do understand its starting to become this sort of "parent-child" dynamic as someone mentioned, and that is very unsexy (to most anyway. hah)

Also: our relationship wasn't and isn't (obviously) being held together by sex. I genuinely really like (even love) the guy! He's smart, funny, and a really nice person. We go out together or stay in together sometimes... its just that I often feel unwanted by him for his lack of interest in sex, and also since he's so used to having his "me time" because I'm his FIRST girlfriend. So he doesn't want to be around me all the time, whereas I'm very used to spending a LOT of time with boyfriends.