vaginapagina | Loss of sexual sensation (Reply)

For the past several months, I've been experiencing an extremely frustrating loss of sexual sensation. My sex drive is still really, really high, I have no trouble getting wet, and I'm generally the initiating partner, but actual stimulation feels like...nothing. It's almost like my clitoris and vagina are numb. My partner plays with my clit and he might as well be fondling my elbow. Obviously I have an intellectual understanding that there's a penis in my vagina, but from a physical standpoint, it doesn't feel like it. I used to come at least once virtually every time I had sex (I've even reached orgasm through nipple stimulation and kissing in the past), and now I think I've reached orgasm from partnered sex (PIV or oral) twice in the past four months, having sex at least three or four times a week. I've been with the same partner for the past six years.

I have a Hitachi Magic Wand, and I'm paranoid that I have permanently damaged something through excessive use, or at least accustomed my body to an intense level of stimulation that's impossible to replicate without toys. I've tried to self-impose a moratorium on the vibrator in case it's the culprit, but I get so frustrated not being able to get off from sex that I end up reaching for it afterward. However, I've found that it's even become difficult to get off using the vibrator. And I've never been very good at reaching orgasm through plain old masturbating-by-hand, and at this point it takes so much time and external stimuli (porn or erotica) that it's not worth the effort.

I was thinking part of this was due to the fact that my partner has not been trying very hard lately, but I brought up my concerns to him and he began making more of an effort to provide prolonged, intense stimulation and really put a lot of time into getting me super aroused, but despite this, I still couldn't get off.

I'm not on any medication or birth control, I've never been pregnant, I don't have any issues with sexual activity (I would say I'm less sexually inhibited now than I've ever been), and I would say my general stress level is at an all-time low. I don't understand what could be causing this or how to fix it--does anyone have any insight?