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[genesisrecorded.livejournal.com]

Hey there.

I'm a little shy about asking stuff like this, but here goes.

I've had sex twice and been masturbating for years. I am very confused as to why, even after sex with my boyfriend, my hymen is STILL there. I can tell it's been slightly ruptured - every once in a while I'll have slight bleeding and discomfort because I was too rough with myself. I was just wondering if it's normal for it to take more than a few sexual encounters to completely break your hymen.

Also, every once in a while (and this was before I had sex) I'll develop a little red bump around my clitoris. It itches a little bit but goes away after a day or two. I never have any pain or burning. It's only happened a few times but because I get paranoid I worry about it for days.

I don't use a vibrator or any other foreign object when I masturbate and occasionally I'll shave down there, but I've never pricked myself or shaved in the area where I got the bump.

Thanks.

Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/_r0ckintheplaid/]

1. I don't know about the hymen thing. It seems weird that it still hasnt broken by now, after years of masturbation, etc. You could have an abnormally thick hymen and possibly require surgery? I'm no expert, so talk to a doc. This is just opinion.

2. Little red bump.... hmmm... well one thing I can say is: if it itches, generally thats a bad thing. Go get tested for STI's if you haven't already.

[genesisrecorded.livejournal.com]

Thanks. That helps. :)

[meleth.livejournal.com]

Sometimes the hymen is a persistent little bugger. It may take a few tries to get rid of it completely. Actually, some women's never do rupture completely on their own. There are, in fact, so-called "professional virgins", women who use their never-rupturing hymens to let men deflower them again and again. If it persists in being there, I might see a doctor about getting it removed.

[genesisrecorded.livejournal.com]

Yeah..I can even reach around it with my fingers, but it just refuses to break. Thanks for the advice.

[mercurysmile.livejournal.com]

Most people have bits of hymen until they have a baby. I remember the 4th guy I had sex with, the first time with him I bled like a stuck pig, and he was like "WHOA you said you weren't a virgin!" It was weird.

Then the ninth guy I had sex with (this is after a few long term relationships so I was having A LOT of sex), I bled *again*. Growr.

[gweniveeve.livejournal.com]

Generally the only event that eradicates the hymen completely is childbirth. So don't worry if you still have pieces of yours. That's just one of the reasons why defining virginity on the state of one's hymen is silliness -- even "non-virgins" often still have them, and unless you have an imperforate hymen (a bad thing, because then your menstrual blood can't come out), you are born with a "torn hymen."

[leave-it-be.livejournal.com]

you know i've been having sex for about a month now (we do it like rabbits. i'm a bit of a fiend these days) and just last night my boyfriend stuck his fingers in there and it hurt like it hurt when i lost my virginity. i sort of sat there thinking "why does that hurt? i don't have a hymen! it's been demolished! or... has it?" apparently it's still hanging out down there for some unknown reason.

[actingblood15.livejournal.com]

I had been having sex for over three months when my hymen THEN doecided to break. It just seemed the different things we did that night and how rough we were was the deciding factor.

[emmieslost.livejournal.com]

i had been having sex for years before my hymen broke. it was the strangest thing. i just assumed i guess that it had been gone a long time(before sex).

[bagheraa.livejournal.com]

First time commenting in this community, I'm sorry if this might be a bit long, but I feel like I should explain some of the background for my advice.

The first couple of years I was having sex, it almost always hurt, and it felt like it was on the same spot on the left side, inside. I was having big problems relaxing my vagina muscles with my first two partners, and in the beginning of my third sexual relationship (which I am still in today). I went to see a gyno at the Youths Health Center, and she was really upset that I started crying when she was examining me, because I couldn't relax and I was scared and it hurt (my bf had to work and couldn't come with me).

I came back WITH my bf the next week and got the full examination. She said that I still had a bit of the hymen left on the left side, and that that probably was causing the pain. She removed it, and I haven't been hurting since. Of course it also helped that my bf was really understanding about the relaxing problems and helped me conquer them.

Well, this got very long...but I hope it may help you in some way. I guess in short what I tried to say was that it is possible to have a gyno examination to see what's up with your hymen, and she can probably help you remove it!!