vaginal to anal?

[thecoolbanana.livejournal.com]

I don't know if this counts for VP but I just wanna throw it out there and see if anyone can help. Everyone here is so nice and and I can't thank you guys enough for past help.

So my fwb and I want to change things up...we always have sex, just kept the tush out of the picture. we both have been curious about it recently. Ive read many memoirs and have heard many horror stories that entail anal sex..including deficating on oneself/on their partner.

Is this true? Is there a way to prevent it? ....should I just stick to vaginal sex?

Comments

[mightyfinewine.livejournal.com]

That's never been an issue for us.

[gunshotbeauty.livejournal.com]

the most important tips for anal sex are lots of lube, patience and condoms. I can find some good guides if you want but I'm sure other girls here can give their tips. it's also important if you go from vaginal to anal or anal to vaginal you switch condoms so you don't transfer bacteria to the other orifice.

[archangelbeth]

I've only ever heard of a problem going From Anus To Vagina -- the anal area, unless you have a yeast infection or BV, generally doesn't care about vagina cooties. The vagina, however, is generally not happy to get the anal bacteria in it.

[tokio.livejournal.com]

Bearing in mind I've only had anal sex about five or six times, I have never lost control of my bowels. The experiences were all rather enjoyable although I rarely receive more than just minimal pleasure from it. Here are some things to do:

1) Just relax and let it happen. I think a lot of things, including but definitely not limited to anal sex, can go badly because of expectations. Enjoy yourself and forget everything you've read about people's personal experiences that are not directly informative. Insertion will also be easier if you're chilled out about it. Maybe even have a beer beforehand.

2) If you're worried and would like to plan it in advance, you can eat lots of fiber up until the day of the sexual act. Some people like to take laxatives to flush themselves out, but I wouldn't recommend this. Even with natural laxatives, anything can go wrong -- you could wind up with a very sore and even bleeding bum, or you could get a bit leaky. If you're going to go the laxative route, I would suggest doing it no less than three or four days in advance.

3) I'm sure you know this already, but make sure you're well-stocked on lube. Every time I've had anal sex, we haven't actually needed any lube because things got very wet, in general, but this isn't always the case. Take as much lube as you think you'll need and add more to it.

4) Never go bum-to-vagina. This is bad. I got bacterial vaginosis from drunkenly doing this one day. Whoops!

Good luck! I hope your experience is lovely!

[otherrootbeer.livejournal.com]

If you're really worried about feces, try an enema beforehand to clean your system out. Even just making sure you've cleared out your bowels a few hours beforehand helps.

Also, just go slow. Use lots and lots of lube and be very patient. Use your fingers first to stretch and then once you're used to it, switch to his man bits.

You might even experiment with that area on your own at first to get used to the feeling.

Make sure if you do have anal, don't reinsert it into the vagina, unless you add a condom or change condoms. That can lead to an infection.

[prettygolucky.livejournal.com]

I've never heard of anyone actually going during anal. However, the first time I did it I felt like I had to go. But I think that's normal. (I may be wrong.)

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

Go to the bathroom beforehand, which will greatly reduce the chance of outright defecation. That said, that's still what goes through there, so you've both got to accept that yeah, accidents could happen or he could come out rather dirtier than when he went in :-P But the many times I've experimented with anal stuff I've never had more a little bit of residue on whatever I was using.

TONS of lube, working it up to gradually with fingers and toys, and going slowly are the keys. If it pinches or hurts a *little* bit, if you stop and relax you can keep going. If it HURTS, that's it, you're done for the day.

And yep, never go bum to vagina! The other way around is fine -- your vagina isn't going to give you an infection in your anus -- but sticking an E. coli covered penis into your vagina is serious bad news.

Personally I love anal stimulation. It does feel rather like you have to go, especially at first, but coupling anal stimulation with something going on with clitoris/vagina really links it in your brain as pleasurable (if your brain needs help with that -- mine didn't), and you can go from there.

[ilovedavidbyrne.livejournal.com]

A few years ago a gay man told me to "douche it out before you use the back door" and as awkward as that unsolicited advice was then, it'll be good advice for you I think.

[http://users.livejournal.com/__recidivist/]

Have you read Tucker Max? Is that where this is coming from? It never occurred to me that someone might actually poo all over her or his partner until I read that. It being Tucker Max, though, I take it with a grain of misogynistic salt.

Anyway, as others are saying, it's important not to get poo or germs from your butt in your vagina. It's also important that his penis not get those same germs or poo pushed in the urethra or hidden in his foreskin or in other folds. The easiest way to avoid this is by using a condom for anal and then removing or changing it for vaginal.

I find it helpful to poo a little bit before any anal stimulation. You might want to take care of that on your own, then invite your partner to join you in the shower. If you have better balance than I do (and a less-disgusting shower) you might just have sex in there.

You may also want to check the memories in sextips

[thecoolbanana.livejournal.com]

ive read Tucker Max, Tommy Lees shit, and have heard stories from friends..makes me nervous but I guess I don't know what will happen unless I try it myself.

--thanks for everyones advice :)

[appolonia.livejournal.com]

Ah, Tucker Max. I think that IF that actually happened, it was probably due to their use of an entire bottle of astroglide. it takes me months of regular use to get through a bottle like that!

[pygmybugs.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I read that bit, and on top of the drunkenness (which tends to send my bowels into an uproar), it sounds like he basically gave her an astroglide enema. I'm sure it worked as well as/better than a regular enema.

Lots of lube, I've found (though I've only tried it a few times, and it's not really my bag) that "pausing in the doorway" -- stopping when you've juuuust gotten the sphincter involved, give everything time to relax so it doesn't hurt.

[doe-anon.livejournal.com]

Hahaha, Tucker Max totally freaked me out about the bum before I lost my virginity ANYWHERE. Then I realized he was the epitome of everything that is wrong with men, and went on with my life (and made a mental note to never let a man squeeze a whole tube of lube in me, ever).

Um, as for advice to the poster, everyone else has pretty much covered everything I was going to! I will note that, while I mostly tried it to first satiate my partner's curiosity, I ended up liking it immensely myself. That might not be the case for everyone, but relax and you never know what might surprise you.

[chicago-doll.livejournal.com]

I was watching talk sex about a year ago and sue said that unless you had screaming diarriha, then it was impossible to make a bowell movement for a while due to the force being shoved in your colon.

[chef-rex.livejournal.com]

Only one piece of advice - start with you on top. You'll know how things are going immediately, instead of having to take the time to tell him (or just reflexively bucking him off - a guy friend of mine ended up with a nasty concussion from the nightstand that way). Waaay better to start with you in total control.

[tornattheelbo.livejournal.com]

be sure that you've 'evacuated' your bowels before you commence. If i know i'm seeing my boyfriend, and i'm feeling up for it, i'll make sure i poop before and maybe give myself an enema depending on how i'm feeling.

For me anal isn't something i'm into all the time, but it's nice to pull it out once in a while.