Go to the bathroom beforehand, which will greatly reduce the chance of outright defecation. That said, that's still what goes through there, so you've both got to accept that yeah, accidents could happen or he could come out rather dirtier than when he went in :-P But the many times I've experimented with anal stuff I've never had more a little bit of residue on whatever I was using.
TONS of lube, working it up to gradually with fingers and toys, and going slowly are the keys. If it pinches or hurts a *little* bit, if you stop and relax you can keep going. If it HURTS, that's it, you're done for the day.
And yep, never go bum to vagina! The other way around is fine -- your vagina isn't going to give you an infection in your anus -- but sticking an E. coli covered penis into your vagina is serious bad news.
Personally I love anal stimulation. It does feel rather like you have to go, especially at first, but coupling anal stimulation with something going on with clitoris/vagina really links it in your brain as pleasurable (if your brain needs help with that -- mine didn't), and you can go from there.
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Date: 2008-08-12 03:04 pm (UTC)TONS of lube, working it up to gradually with fingers and toys, and going slowly are the keys. If it pinches or hurts a *little* bit, if you stop and relax you can keep going. If it HURTS, that's it, you're done for the day.
And yep, never go bum to vagina! The other way around is fine -- your vagina isn't going to give you an infection in your anus -- but sticking an E. coli covered penis into your vagina is serious bad news.
Personally I love anal stimulation. It does feel rather like you have to go, especially at first, but coupling anal stimulation with something going on with clitoris/vagina really links it in your brain as pleasurable (if your brain needs help with that -- mine didn't), and you can go from there.