Bearing in mind I've only had anal sex about five or six times, I have never lost control of my bowels. The experiences were all rather enjoyable although I rarely receive more than just minimal pleasure from it. Here are some things to do:
1) Just relax and let it happen. I think a lot of things, including but definitely not limited to anal sex, can go badly because of expectations. Enjoy yourself and forget everything you've read about people's personal experiences that are not directly informative. Insertion will also be easier if you're chilled out about it. Maybe even have a beer beforehand.
2) If you're worried and would like to plan it in advance, you can eat lots of fiber up until the day of the sexual act. Some people like to take laxatives to flush themselves out, but I wouldn't recommend this. Even with natural laxatives, anything can go wrong -- you could wind up with a very sore and even bleeding bum, or you could get a bit leaky. If you're going to go the laxative route, I would suggest doing it no less than three or four days in advance.
3) I'm sure you know this already, but make sure you're well-stocked on lube. Every time I've had anal sex, we haven't actually needed any lube because things got very wet, in general, but this isn't always the case. Take as much lube as you think you'll need and add more to it.
4) Never go bum-to-vagina. This is bad. I got bacterial vaginosis from drunkenly doing this one day. Whoops!
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Date: 2008-08-12 01:44 pm (UTC)1) Just relax and let it happen. I think a lot of things, including but definitely not limited to anal sex, can go badly because of expectations. Enjoy yourself and forget everything you've read about people's personal experiences that are not directly informative. Insertion will also be easier if you're chilled out about it. Maybe even have a beer beforehand.
2) If you're worried and would like to plan it in advance, you can eat lots of fiber up until the day of the sexual act. Some people like to take laxatives to flush themselves out, but I wouldn't recommend this. Even with natural laxatives, anything can go wrong -- you could wind up with a very sore and even bleeding bum, or you could get a bit leaky. If you're going to go the laxative route, I would suggest doing it no less than three or four days in advance.
3) I'm sure you know this already, but make sure you're well-stocked on lube. Every time I've had anal sex, we haven't actually needed any lube because things got very wet, in general, but this isn't always the case. Take as much lube as you think you'll need and add more to it.
4) Never go bum-to-vagina. This is bad. I got bacterial vaginosis from drunkenly doing this one day. Whoops!
Good luck! I hope your experience is lovely!