do people mind pubic stubble?

[datta.livejournal.com]

I'll be eighteen next week, and I've been shaving my pubic hair for several years now. For a while it was all of it, then just the labia, and now it's back to a landing strip. I've never had anyone see me naked except for family members and my doctor.

Anyway, my question is essentially this:

I shave because I don't like the hair, I think it's unattractive and itchy. But I can't shave every day, because it gets irritated -- usually every other day. I find the stubble unattractive. When someone does see me naked, or at least without my underwear on (which I'd like to be sooner rather than later but that's another question entirely), I'm afraid they'll think it's weird that I shave, or that it's weird that I shave but there's a little bit of stubble.

Any suggestions for how to get more comfortable with that?

Comments

[elusiveways.livejournal.com]

Reassurance? Many, many people shave. It's natural that there would be stuble because the hair doesn't stop growing. In that sense, it's similar to a man's facial hair. It might help if you think of it like that.

I'm kind of the opposite. Sometimes I wonder if people find it weird when I have periods where I don't shave at all.

[greenpuppy.livejournal.com]

I assure you that it's not weird that you shave. Honestly, I don't think there's much of anything "weird" you can do with your pubic hair... maybe dying it pink and shaving it into the shape of a bunny... But, the fact is, some people shave, some people don't, some people trim, some people do different things at different times. I don't think any of them are anymore normal than the others.

[snarkitty.livejournal.com]

"Honestly, I don't think there's much of anything "weird" you can do with your pubic hair... maybe dying it pink and shaving it into the shape of a bunny"

Hahahaha, I once dyed mine blue..

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

And the bunny option is realistic: http://tinyurl.com/dq4u4

[greenpuppy.livejournal.com]

Heh, rockin'. Hey, I'm not trying to discourage anyone from doing their own thing. ;)

[electric-colors.livejournal.com]

People really shouldn't make a big deal about it. I shave and it's usually a bit stubbly since I would rather have it be rough than having a bunch of ingrown hairs, and no one has ever commented on it. I think they were just excited to see me with no clothes on.

[preternatural.livejournal.com]

I think an awful lot of people shave, and I'd be surprised if anyone thought that odd.

As to stubble, well, stubble's part of life! The average guy should, if he stops to think about it, sympathize - so many men have problems shaving their facial hair, all those products out there to help a man manage to shave his face without bleeding all over are made for a reason! Stands to reason it'd be just as difficult to shave an even more sensitive region daily.

Any guy (or girl, for that matter) who's going to give you crap about stubble can pay for your waxes, if he's that uptight ;)

[dollunderglass.livejournal.com]

I have never had my boyfriend say anything about stubble. I don't shave my legs every day, either. And most guys can't shave their faces every day, so they have stuble. It's part of life.

[snarkitty.livejournal.com]

No one has ever minded my stuble, and I shave everything :)

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[datta.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm sorry! I meant to do it after I wrote the entry, and then I forgot. *shame*

[viellen]

Cool, no prob :)

[https://users.livejournal.com/-tormented-soul/]

I think they don't care about the stubble, they're more interested in seeing you naked. At least that is what I've learnt from my boyfriend's attitude. ;)

[jinglefox.livejournal.com]

I honestly don't mind the hair.. and shave it more for my boyfriend, because he finds it hot. I don't see him all the time, though (about once a week) so I just let it grow until the morning that I spend time with him. Then I'll shave it... but nobody I've been with has had a problem with me being bare, stubbly, or a little grown out, I doubt anyone really cares that much as much as they care about why you're naked in the first place, y'know?

[agata.livejournal.com]

I used to trim and in 1st year a guy I was with told me that I have to fully shave. I shaved (for him?) and eventually learned that I should do whatever makes me comfortable and not what the guy likes.

Currently I don't shave because I'm too busy with school and as a plus my boyfriend prefers the un-shaved look.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

Lots of people shave, lots of people have stubble. For porn, they usually shave just before pictures are taken, so you don't see it. When people who aren't family members or your doctor see your pubic area, they'll be fine.

[misslynn.livejournal.com]

For porn, they usually shave just before pictures are taken, so you don't see it.

Plus airbrushing any strays and/or ingrown hairs and/or any other flaws anywhere, ever :)

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

I'm sure whoever it is will just be glad to see you naked. :)
Personally, I don't like the shaved look. I think it is unattractive on both men and women. Part of this is I like the hair, but also that the stubbly look is a turn off(usually on women, I notice it less on men for some reason)and I think razor-burn looks yicky. I also don't like the little-kid-esque quality of it. Aside from.. whether or not it turns me on, or whatever, I just find it less aesthetically appealing. I rememeber the first shaved person I ever saw in person(landing strip) was one of my best friends. She had horrible shaving bumps and stubble. And I really didn't like the look of the strip. In all of shaved-dom(porn, in person, magazines) I've never seen a shaving that I thought looked good. I have shaved completely a few times and hate it every time because it is so painful growing in or re-shaving. I once made the mistake of trying to N'air. Woo-boy.
Anyway.. that's all just my opinion. Like body-types, there are a billion different pubic grooming techniques out there and I don't think anyone you're with is going to have a problem with what you choose to do. And if they do, well, tough noogies for them.

[thiswaste.livejournal.com]

I shave, but obviously not everyday because I hate ingrown hairs. When I first started having sex I would shave everytime my boyfriend and I were to meet up because I was so embarrassed of the stubble. Wth my current boyfriend, he himself told me he didn't mind stubble because he know what a hell ingrowths could be, and that he loves seeing me naked anyway, stubble or no stubble.

So dont worry and do whatever feels comfortable for you. It is, after all, your body, and nobody has the right to make you change. Its your decision in the end.

[zellie-bean.livejournal.com]

I shave about once a week so yeeaaah I get stubble. It gets kinda itchy on my partner but he loves that I shave anyway because he doesn't get a face full of hair when he goes down there ;p Any guy that would complain about stubble deserves a kick out the door :P that's such a MINOR thing...annnnd guys certainly have THEIR fair share of stubble.

[cestsibon.livejournal.com]

Hair grows.
Stubble is bound to happen.
I hate pubic hair as well, but I only shave every 5 days to prevent irratation. If men can shave their faces and go days with stubble, why cant we? I've had stubbly faces and beards right up close with my vagina, and it didnt bother me at all. So why should my 2 day stubble be a problem?

[soda-raison.livejournal.com]

Occasionally I'll shave. It's not weird. Right now I'm so broke I can't afford shaving stuff so, I haven't shaved my legs or under my arms in ages but, I do trim my pubes. My bf doesn't care what I do with my body hair as long as we continue to get naked ;)

[theretammygoes.livejournal.com]

I really don't think anyone will think that it's weird that you shave, or have 2-3 day stubble. Do what you feel most comfortable with, and I am positive that the special person in your life wont even flinch :)

[-birkenstock.livejournal.com]

I think that shaving/trimming is way more common than you think! I am actually surprised when I learn that someone doesn't shave these days. When did pubic hair become such a big issue?

Like a few other people said above... your partner is usually so excited that he's getting up close and personal with that area of you in the first place that he is not going to care about a little bit of stubble!

If you are really that concerned about it, maybe take the time to give that area a quick touch up before letting someone see it? I know shaving too often can cause some serious skin irritation, but doing it in "emergency" situations shouldn't cause any problems (unless you have super sensitive skin). Some suggestions? Take a long hot shower to soften to hair (get all of your other shower steps done, save this step for last), make sure you are using a fresh razor, and a shaving gel designed for sensitive skin or the bikini zone. I have found that applying a post shave of conditioner to that area helps keep everything unirritated.

An ex boyfriend once told me that it was a huge turn on for him if he did come across a little stubble on my legs/private area - so who knows, your partner might even enjoy the way you look and feel even if its not after a fresh shave!

[fionnghuala.livejournal.com]

Worrying about a single days stubble sounds to me like one of those things that only you notice! Like being paranoid about looking tired, having scruffy hair or only wearing your old shoes and not those new ones you really want but can't afford yet. People who are about to have sex with you are the least likely of anyone to notice these things! Think how lucky he is to be seeing you naked in the first place.

Also, lots of people who shave do it much less frequently, and don't consider themselves to be unreasonably stubbly!