Masturbation with partner

[fushigi-na-chou.livejournal.com]

So my boyfriend and I have discussed on several occasions the idea of me masturbating while he watches. In theory, I'm totally cool with this idea. In practice, I can't quite bring myself to do it. Most of my inability is mental, I'm sure. I'm very self-conscious of the idea. I think things like "what if I look totally stupid while I'm doing it and it's not nearly as sexy as what he's hoping/expecting?" Not to mention, my orgasms from masturbation are totally different from my orgasms from sex. My me time brings me to a quick and quiet climax (seriously, I can finish myself off in about ten seconds if I need a quickie), while sex can have me going for quite a while, and is usually a pretty noisy affair on my part. I'm afraid that he'll actually be straight up bored by my solo performance. 8D And then, finally, there's just the idea of someone watching me that makes me slightly uncomfortable, possibly relating back to childhood abuse, but possibly also unrelated.

During our discussions, I've brought up all of these points with him, and of course, he seems unswayed, but he understands, and doesn't want to push me to do something I'm not comfortable with. But I'd really like to try to do it for him, I'm just not sure how to start. Does anyone have any suggestions?

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[soulsearch2010.livejournal.com]

Does anyone else have trouble getting off with a partner? I started having sex when I was 19. I'm 27 now and I haven't had a single orgasm with any partners. I feel like every man I've been with thinks my vag is a penis and a few strokes is all it takes me to get me going. I can't come through PIV sex and I'm so jealous of anyone who can. I enjoy the sensation but it's not enough. Mind you I've never been in a long-term relationship so that might affect my comfort level, since most guys I've been with are usually a one-time thing or at the most it lasts a couple of weeks. Anyway.....some times I just want to have sex for the sake of having sex, especially when the guy is super attractive, but I just can't seem to come and I don't know how to instruct them without hurting their super-senstive ego. Not to generalize, but every guy I've been with seems to need some kind of reassurance that they're "doing me right" and I don't know how to say "no, you're doing it all wrong" without being rude, especially when it comes to educating them about my vag. Any suggestions?

or do you think this is somehting I can only achieve in a long-term relationship, where we have time to get to know eachother's bodies better and trust eachother enough to be comfortable to try anything?

Thanks!

Bleeding?

[whiterabit.livejournal.com]

Hi VPers,

I have a question I need help. I had sex yesterday for the first time in 4 months. I had some mild cramping and light bleeding last night (not sure why it was not particularly rough sex). This has continued today. The sex was quite protected, he wore a condom and I am also on birth control. This is not implantation bleeding right?? It's too soon is my thought. But googling implantation bleeding just convinces me I have it. So please help assage my fears!

Thanks!

Feeling ovulation?

[lilmizzaniml.livejournal.com]

Back when I was a teenager, before I was on HBC, I could feel when I was ovulating.  Just enough of a twinge that I eventually figured out what it was.  When I was 19, I went on HBC and was on it for 11 years.  I have been off HBC since last September, but I do not feel ovulation anymore.  Is it likely that, after being on HBC so long that I just don't feel it now, or could something be fishy?

For the record, my periods are pretty normal and regular, though my cramps are worse (but not ungodly) than they were when I was a teenager.

Not that I'm being worrisome about anything, just curious.

Rhythm method device

[cloudsnapper.livejournal.com]

I saw a long time ago that there was this little electronic device for the rhythm method of birth control. You input the day your period start and your temperature, and maybe more data.
Does anyone know what that is called? Do they even make those anymore? (I think I saw something about it 2-3 years ago.) Would I need a prescription for one?
Also, anyone have a quick link to the effectiveness of the rhythm method? Even where you take your temperature versus not doing that?
I'm going to try to go off hormonal birth control after being on it 8 years, and want to try without to see if I feel better without it. I'm married, so it wouldn't be horrible if I got pregnant, but I do take a medication that's not good for babies so I'd like to avoid it.
Thanks so much!

UTI

[xkiller-cupcake.livejournal.com]

Hi everyone!

So on Monday I woke up and when I peed, there was a little blood in my urine. The last time that happened i had a kidney infection and went to the hospital. However it was not as severe this time, (as in the amount of blood and pain), so i bought some UriCalm for my symptoms and drank a ton of cranberry juice and water to flush myself out. I definitely felt a lot better, and my urine looked a little, "cleaner" so to speak, except yesterday there was a little blood, or rather, darkness when i wiped, so i made an appointment with my doctor. he gave me antibiotics, took a sample, and sent it off to the lab to confirm. Between 4:00 yesterday and now (10:45pm), I have had no symtoms whatsoever. I haven't taken the antibiotics yet, and I am unsure what to do. The only reason I am hesitant to take the antibiotics is because I don't want to take unnecessary meds. I know the smart thing to do is to just take the antibiotics, but where did my UTI go??

Any insight is appreciated, thank you!