Anal Sex and Actual Pleasure

[chroias.livejournal.com]

Okay...err...here goes.

As you can tell by the title I am here about anal sex. I have a sincere enjoyment of anal sex both receiving and preforming it. My girlfriend, goddess bless her, wants to give it to me and has tried multiple times.

It's a complicated issue, something we've been working on for years. One time, ONE TIME, I managed to actually give her an anal orgasm. But the same method didn't work twice (damn our female bodies and their constantly rearranging pleasure zones). I've done everything I can think of from ensuring cleanliness to slowly working up from small toys (about this size of a thumb) to the size of an average phallus (5x1). It feels okay, at least she can take it with only a minor amount of discomfort, till about this http://www.edenfantasys.com/anal-toys/anal-probes/key-to-your-butt however after that it just hurts too much.

I was willing to drop it and let it go. I figured you know it's not that big a deal, and if the smaller ones work for her then okay we can still have plenty of fun with just that. But she feels really guilty about not being able to give me one of my fetishes. She actually cried the last time because she felt she had failed! FAILED! I was thrilled that she had tried so hard for me! It made me want to fuck her even harder!

She says it's because I give her all her fantasies and work so hard to do what she likes. She wants to make sure she can make mine come true. I reminded her that I am good at her fantasies because I enjoy giving them to her and I get pleasure from them too. So I don't want her to do this if she just can't get pleasure from it to. But she wants to, and I want to. But I don't want to hurt her. But she feels OBLIGATED to take it!

*head desk*

I'm at my wits end! I want to make this good for her. She really enjoyed it when we made it happen that one time and I think we both want to take it to that level again. This isn't something that we do every day. It's maybe once a month or so when we're feeling ready for that level of (frankly) effort.

I want to just make it pleasurable. I want to help her enjoy it. It's not impossible and I've done my best to read up on it. Well now I'm after more practical advise.

trying to avoid nausea when taking plan b

[joyreach.livejournal.com]

Sorry if this is covered in one of the Plan B discussions, but if it's there I missed it. I'm about to take Plan B One-Step for the first time (after unprotected sex about half a day after my period stopped--I'm not too worried but I should make sure, right?) and I'd really like to avoid throwing up the pill if possible. I haven't eaten yet today. Would community members with some experience in this department recommend taking the pill on an empty stomach, or eating a little something for cushion?
Thanks for any help!

lo loestrin fe

[bushisgonein08.livejournal.com]

so i started my first month of lo loestrin fe and i am on the brown pills..the first brown pill(with this bc theres only 2 brown pills) so i should have started my period today..and i know its still early but usually i start my period in the mornings and i haven't started yet. i heard that some women dont get their period on this pill at all but i'm concerned bc i was put on a zpac for strept throat about 2 weeks ago..which if i am correct put me right at ovulation time and while my boyfriend and I didnt have sex while on the antibiotic, we did have sex the night before i was put on it. has anyone not gotten their period with this bc? thanks

Perplexing Vagina Problem: I have no idea what is wrong down there!

[skankkbby.livejournal.com]

Alright, so I've been having this problem since before I started menstrual cycling or hit puberty when I was 13 (I'm 18 now). It was a constant thick, white discharge that inevitably left large creamy-like stains in my underwear. First, I blew it off as premenstrual discharge, because I remembered something about discharge around puberty from a sex ed. class. After I started my period, the discharge continued. I would tell my doctor that I thought it was a yeast infection, but he never ran tests. He just prescribed me medications for yeast infections or bacterial infections. Still, the discharge continued. I was sexually active very quickly after I began having periods, but not before. One of the things I am most worried about is that I was raped for a little over a year when I was six.

That being said, I was tested for STDs; these tests came back negative. I was put on a birth control very early due to my premature sexual activity and irregular periods. Well, fast forward a little: about six months ago, my period went out of control. I started having two periods a month. I'd have a 10 day cycle, spot, and be done for a few days (during which, I still had the discharge) and then another 10 day period would start up. It wasn't just old blood or a panty-liner's worth, it was a full-on period. When I wasn't on my period, I had intense discharge that had a foul smell and, according to my boyfriend, a bitter taste. No itching though. This went on for a few months until I saw my doctor almost about 1 1/2 months ago. He thought that it might be the birth control that was not strong enough, so he took me off the pill and put me on depo. 15 days later, I started a heavy period (depo should rid me of a period), but I did a bit of research that said it happened in the first month. It's duration seemed normal, and it started to get light and spotty. But then it started up again, just as heavy as before. Well, this went on- heavy to light, heavy to light, and I expected it to end every time. It took on a brown/black color, which I know is a signal of old blood. But usually old blood is just spotting or a really light flow; but like I said earlier, it would be so heavy!

The period madness finally took a halt three days ago. Now, I have discharge that is thick, but instead of being white, it's a brownish-yellow color; it almost looks like there's some earwax mixed up in there. During all this craziness, I've been having abdominal pains like crazy! Sometimes it's a period-cramps feel. But most of the time, it's an intense, stop-mid-step-and-bend-over type of pain.

I've had two ultrasounds done- one regular ultrasound and another vaginal ultrasound; the doctors were trying to see if I had ovarian cysts. These were done before the birth control switch. After the switch, though, my doc told me to call back in two weeks if symptoms continue. Well, I know myself to be a hypochondriac, so I've been avoiding going back to get it checked out, thinking of excuses not to (whether or not this is rational, I don't know). But I did a lot of research, and I keep coming to "cervical cancer" which can take years to show up.

Anyways, help? Has anybody else had this issue? The last few time's I've been tested for infections, results come back negative. This is not normal behavior for my body. Opinions?

I feel dry...

[without-law.livejournal.com]

Recently I have been deflowered and through each session I have had, which is three including the first time, I have felt really dry. My partner said that he felt that I was wet but I still feel like I wasn't wet. We have tried using lube (plenty of it) but it still wasn't enough. I know that there were times where I have gotten so wet that it was visible through my underwear, so what do you all think the problem is? Is it that I'm just not in the right mindset of my partner is not doing enough to turn me on?

not an update, a question. lol

[gamuzadma.livejournal.com]

So now that I'm having sex with my boyfriend, I have some questions. 
I can't use birth control because they make me severely depressed, and I don't want to have to use an anti-depressant along with it.
We've been using condoms with nonoxyl-9 on them, do you think that will work to prevent pregnancy? (He's got no STD's, so don't talk about how it can protect/not protect against them lol)
Also, yesterday we did it, and he went in once without a condom on because we couldn't really get him in with the condom on at first. I got my period today, so there's no chance that could have gotten me pregnant right? Because I know sex without a condom, (even if he "pulls out") can lead to pregnancy... Thanks :)

clindamycin + acidophilus

[morgandee.livejournal.com]

Hi everyone!

I was recently prescribed clindamycin for an upcoming surgery and...I'm reading horror stories. I am afraid of developing colitis and/or a yeast infection, so I was thinking of taking acidophilus with this. Has anyone paired these two before? Any anecdotes? I'm going to talk to my doctor and pharmacist tomorrow, and I would like to be armed with different ideas. Thanks!