orgasms during sex

[supergirl-04.livejournal.com]

Okay - I've tried to read through most stuff here. And quite frankly, there's a lot about UTIs and Yeast infections blah blah blah. Not to demean anyone dealing with it - it's not fun and it's scary - but once you've been there - you'll know for the future.

That said - I haven't skimmed enough to see if anyone has posted/commented on this problem.

I've been sexually active (!) for years (13-31). Out of maybe ten regular (as in long term ongoing) partners, there's only been four with which I've been able to orgasm through just coitus itself.

Question 1 - I can climax easily in a variety of ways (no toys of yet); but not with current partner. Now I am SO in love with him. He turns me on beyond belief and actually fulfills most of the fantasies that I've had while masturbating (I've not told him this) but when we "do it" I just cant get there. I'm not sure if it's because we dont do it long enough or if I'm self-conscious or if I'm hindering issues from the birth of child #2 which caused damage to my perineum (sp?) - another story entirely, I think (so if there's any comments for this, let me know and I'll make another post).

I'm wondering - really - how you incorporate touching your own self in order to orgasm while having sex. I think he might be okay with this; but worry that he'll suffer an ego blow (fuck that, right? but still.....we worry about the ego...uh, further contributing to the whole inhibition issue).

QUestion 2 - How do you get him to touch you "there"? Mine is usually pretty good about it (but brief) unless he's way hot and bothered, in which case, he doesnt realize that he's only going to benefit by acquiesing.

And any insight as to why the other situations were so fabulous and this falling short when it's really the guy that butters my toast?

(Side note: I think I've also gained weight - about 7-10lbs and maybe self conscious about my body - could that be inhibiting my own willingness to enjoy it to the fullest with someone else and not just myself?)

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[giraffemoo.livejournal.com]

someone posted here a while ago, like a few days ago, with a question about finding *cute* bras in big sizes, and i promised a list of links and....i forgot!! i have it now, but i didn't want to sift through days worth of posts to find it so i thought i'd post it because i know you'll find it. again, i'm sorry that it took so long!!! i don't know if these have G size bras, which i think you needed, but i know they have big ones. this is also for anyone else looking for cute bras in big sizes...believe me, being a 34DD almost DDD its harder than hell to find a bra that fits and is also cute! i don't know about these links...but they were hand-picked by my boyfriend that i sent on a mission to find me sites with cute big bras. you know they're sexy when a guy likes them ;)
thank my boyfriend, he spent hours re-finding this list for me!!

http://www.womanspersonalhealth.com/AvianaBackClosure.htm

http://www.barenecessities.com/

http://www.cupsrunnethover.com/

http://www.enell.com/

http://www.erosboutique.org/store/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=erosbout&Category_Code=womens

http://www.figleaves.com/us/sbs.asp?sale=0

http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Full+Figure+Collection&product%5Fid=51896&cookie%5Ftest=1

http://www.justmysize.com/

http://www.junonia.com/

http://lanebryant.charmingshoppes.com/Shopping/product.asp?product_id=L1001183

http://www.bravissimo.com/home.html

http://www.prettier.com/

http://www.biggerbras.com/

http://www.plussizebras.org/

http://www.ujena.com/bikinis.php?cid=76

cryotherapy

[alliee.livejournal.com]

so i spoke to my gyn and had to make an appt for feb 7th for cryotherapy(?) to rid me of those icky hpv cells. i was just wondering if any of you girls have any information about this. he suggested that i take some sort of pain killer before hand..now how bad will it hurt, will aleve be enough or will i need something stronger. and also, if any of you know, how long should i wait after that to have sex...i was looking foward to a nice valentines day and im hoping my silly vagina doesnt ruin it ;) thank you in advance<3

ok.....

[amyakieran.livejournal.com]

for the past like... hour i've had to piss like literally every five minutes. it doesnt hurt to pee or anything, and i haven't drunk any massive amounts of fluids lately... what is going on?! i tried ignoring the urges, but after a while, it hurts just as terribly as it would if i really had to pee!

breasts! not vaginas, today.

[babyrocket.livejournal.com]

hi!
i have been having, well, not really issues with, but explorations of my breasts.
i find them really interesting. i already know a lot about my vulva and all that, i touch around there often enough, i've inspected it to get more familiar with myself (heh, familiar), and it's just so intriguing, all those pretty colors and shapes and finding things that feel good and so THAT'S where the blood comes out, gotcha!
but breasts are a completely different story. there's a nipple, okay, milk, and there's some gross-textured stuff in there if you press down.
why do people like breasts? i ask myself. they are, after all, just lumps of sometimes milk-producing tissue and fat. and fat anywhere else is looked upon as, well, gross, in society's eyes, although i personally have no idea what's not to love about well-shaped, beautiful, cuddly-cushiony-comfy men and ladies and any other gender as well.
anyway, so we have these lumps of fat, but OH, look, they are sensitive on the ends! let's stimulate them! AWESOME, that turns me on, okay, good.

so.

my breasts are way different sizes. like, A LOT. at least a cup size. i never wear bras anymore, because the left one (gertrude*) protrudes over the top if i get one to fit the right, and the right one (laertes) always looks, well, too small for the cup when i have a bra that fits my left breast. i don't mind this at all. i tell my boyfriend he's lucky because he has halves of two different girlfriends, one big-breasted and one small-breasted one, and whatever he's in the mood for he can go to that side.
also, i have a few very dark hairs growing around my nipples. i think they are cute. i pull them out, but as i do it i think of the passage in that second dave eggers book, where he is talking about his beautiful girlfriend with dark hairs swirling around her nipples, which he disliked while he was dating her but now is angry at himself for not embracing her embracing them.
also, my nipples are very pale. i am very pale, also, but there is almost no difference between the color of my aureoles (spelling?) and skin tone. i go back and forth between liking and disliking this.

anyways, what are YOUR thoughts on your breasts? other people's breasts? other people and your breasts? what do you call them? breasts? boobs? tits? something else? there are a lot of "discovering your vagina" posts, but i haven't seen any breast ones, and i'm just CURIOUS!


*my friends named them this when we were doing a hamlet project. the picture that inspired them is me with giant nametags on my breasts.

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[quatre-vingts.livejournal.com]

What exactly constitutes "sexually active"? Last couple times I saw the gynecologist and the nurse asked, I said I wasn't, because I wasn't having intercourse, but then I thought about the fact that I was in a friends-with-benefits type situation that involved fluid exchange (read: a lot of oral sex). So basically, is "sexually active" whenever you're in a relationship or involved in activities that could put you at risk through body-fluid-transmitted STDs?

The magically shrinking and expanding Vagina?

[sacchrinetokyo.livejournal.com]

Here's my question, ladies: Do you find that your vagina tends to swell up and become smaller during the first day or so of your period?

I've been putting a lot of effort into trying out my first box of Instead Soft Cups, but I have an unusually difficult time maneuvering them through my vagina and around my cervix. It's as if there's no room inside me for my soft cup AND my fingers. I normally don't have this sort of problem with "small" vagina syndrome. Also, it almost feels as though my uterus drops lower at that time, too. Normal?

Also, I was reading the Soft Cup tips on the website and they say you're supposed to be able to feel the "nose" of your cervix through the little baggie--well during this time, I can't feel anything in particular inside of my body much less my baggie.

more science with the problems of tampons

[amyakieran.livejournal.com]

"Modern western culture does not set aside time for women to menstruate. Women themselves do not wish to alter their typical lifestyles and activities simply because they are having a period. As a result, many women, especially young ones, use tampons to minimize the effect of menstruation on their lives.

Tampons are convenient, provide minimal hand and eye contact with menstrual blood, and make walking, running, and other physical activities easier than when having an absorbent pad between the legs.

But what are the consequences of using a tampon? The walls of the vagina are lined with a mucus membrane, much like the lining of the mouth. Imagine if you were to put a tampon in the cheek of your mouth for 3-7 days, 24 hours daily. Your cheek lining would feel raw. This is what a tampon does to the vaginal lining.

As a result, the vaginal mucous membrane secretes extra mucus to sooth its irritated membrane. This is why some women experience a mucus discharges after their menstrual period ends. If tampon usage continues, month after month, the irritation of the vaginal lining causes an overgrowth of cells, in the same way as rubbing the skin of the hands can cause thickened skin. This is the body’s way of protecting its skin layers.

As the tampon rubs on the cervix, skin covering that organ will develop extra layers, as well. This overgrowth of cervical skin has been called cervical dysplasia. It is a direct result of the mechanical irritation of the cervix by tampons, and is reversible.

In addition, an irritated vagina has an inflamed mucous membrane which is more susceptible to infections and which oozes lymph fluid. This can create an environment ripe for yeast growth, producing yeast infections. The cause of these infections is not the yeast. It is the irritation of the vagina that makes it possible for yeast to grow and attack the vaginal lining. It also makes it possible for bacteria to grow, which is why tampons can cause toxic shock syndrome.

Tampons, then, can lead to vaginal irritation, cervical dysplasia, and vaginal infections."
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found here
my mother is most likely suffering from cervical dysplasia, as she doesn't remember what her doctor called it.

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[pink-rose-elf.livejournal.com]

In the spirit of this post, does anyone know of any sites for cute bras in very small sizes? I'm a 34AA and the only site I know about is this one:

http://www.littlewomen.co.uk/

I've also found one or two at Victoria's Secret that are decent, but that's it.

ovulation question

[hiya-toots.livejournal.com]

I'm on the pill (desogen), and I had been taking antibiotics for the first 5 days of this cycle (I'm on day 7 now). I'm wondering if I could find out when I would be ovulating next, just in case the pill failed.
is it about 14 days from the last pill I took? or about 14 days since the first day of my last period?

In the words of one Mr. Napoleon Dynamite: YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.

[leslieannlevine.livejournal.com]

Quick Update: Blah blah I wrote tons and tons about a possible pregnancy and EC and after-effects and et cetera, but...

I got my period today!!

So it has been officially decreed that I am not pregnant and therefore I rock a lot. Not saying that it rocks to not be pregnant, just saying I DEFINITELY DID NOT WANT TO BE, and that rocks to me (If you want to be pregnant, then that rocks too, right?) I am going out to buy myself some pretty fabric and sew in celebration. Thank God. Thankgodthanksgotetgergntesiyh. AAH. SO much less stress.

This entire ordeal has made me so happy that I live in a society where, at least as of right now, things like EC are available to me. I take my reproductive rights for granted too often. But thank God EC exists and thank God for my safety, and for that of women who have to take EC, and especially for women who can't get EC and end up in bad situations. God... I'm so thankful =)

Just saying howdy and hey to all of the ladies who supported me throughout this shit ordeal. <333

Tiny Tits

[oh-la-vache.livejournal.com]

I saw a post earlier about breasts and I wanted to make a post as well.

I have REALLY small breasts. They are A's. I'm not really happy with it because tons of girls at my school are bigger than me. Almost every single one of them.

Since I am only 16, how big of a chance is there that they will get bigger?

herbal abortion zine

[escape-of-maude.livejournal.com]

Hey All,

I'm compiling a zine on herbal abortions, and a few other herbal gynecology-related topics. I would be honored to hear or read anyone's personal accounts with herbal abortions (successful for not), and I'm also trying to seek out as many written sources as possible. Please email me (or post here) suggested books, zines, articles, websites, etc. Thank you so very much!

Green Blessings,
Maude

sunflowersutra@riseup.net

p.s. Feel free to cross-post this or pass the word on to anyone who might be interested.

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[spidermonkeylov.livejournal.com]

ok recently i post tips on uti's but i had a question now on it. would sperm if it got in there cause a really really bad one??

hahaha, I need help

[poemi.livejournal.com]

Does anyone have any idea how to open the Apollo vibe?

looks like ( this )

I just bought it, and I can't figure it out! I'm scared of breaking it!

pubic hair

[amyakieran.livejournal.com]

i have pubic hair that grows about two inches onto my thighs.... is that bad?

Hymenectomy

[pirate-poet.livejournal.com]

I am interested in the possibility of getting an elective hymenectomy. I have no idea if I have actual medical grounds for it... and I don't know if it is even *legal* to do elective ones.

But I am interested in any of you out there who have had the procedure and what exactly that entails. I have looked a little online but I am still vague on some things.

Do they "knock you out" for the procedure? Or are there only local anesthetics involved? If so, what kind-- a jelly or a needle? How much pain is involved? What was the recovery process like, exactly? And even if it is not "standard" totoally make the patient unconscious, is it possible to for this procedure? (I would prefer not being awake).

Background:
I am 19 and have never been sexually active in anyway. I have never penetrated myself and have a very big fear about that. I also have a VERY low tolerance for pain. I am on ortho tri-cyclen for my PCOS, an endo prescribed it to me and I have never had any sort of gynelogical exam.
I am also transgender. I do not ID as a man or as a woman-- I am just myself. I use "he/his" as my pronouns as that is what I am most comfortable with for now.

Has anybody here used Metrogel before?

[sekai.livejournal.com]

( So my gynecologist said my pap came back with some bacteria... )

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Nabothian cysts?

[themagentazebra.livejournal.com]

I should really stop poking around in there. I'm just trying to learn more about my body, but I keep finding things that SCARE ME HALF TO DEATH.

I have a distinct little bump on my cervix. Since my boyfriend and I are STD-free, I figure it could only mean a few things: Polyp, Cyst, Cervical Cancer?

I googled it and couldn't find much except for this:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/imagepages/17090.htm

Except, that illutration has a lot of little bumps and I can only find one.

Does anyone have any sort of experience with anything like this? I'm such a hypocondriac.