(TW) Update on my sister's child abuse case

[rebeccagrace.livejournal.com]

Hello VPers.

I wanted to give an update about my nephew's child abuse case. I called child services today to get an update on the case. The person in charge of the investigation told me that they had closed the case due to lack of evidence. I am so, so upset. The person basically told me that I was the only person who had come forward and that everyone else had said that it wasn't that bad, and/or they hadn't seen anything. I was made to feel like I was almost making it up, to cause trouble. The person was like, "Well, no one else has corroborated your story, so..."

I don't know what else I can do, VPers. I tried, and now I feel like I have failed my nephew and it just makes me ill. I am already under so much stress from the whole thing, and then just to be told that there was no case basically because there were no marks or bruises just makes me feel awful. She won't get the help she needs, and my nephew still has to live with her...and...it's awful. I feel like I haven't made the slightest difference. 

Wow, I'm sorry...this kind of turned into a pity party for me, and I didn't mean it that way. I just feel so bad, and scared for my nephew. What more can I possibly do? There is no way on earth I will ever be allowed to see my nephew or niece again after this, so I've lost them...therefore I have lost my ability to protect them and nurture them. I am sad. 

Comments

[knittinggoddess.livejournal.com]

Absolutely this.

Also, you've planted a seed in your sister's mind, that maybe her actions aren't justifiable or okay. Perhaps this seed will grow and she'll either change or get help.

[soulsearch2010.livejournal.com]

This is true, I know my cousins parents were alot more careful and less physically abusive towards her after someone reported them to children's aid and they were arrested, but unfortunately the system F'ing sucks! These children are trapped, they get taken away from their parents to end up in foster care and possibly a worse situation or they eventually get returned to the parents and the parents claim to have changed, but really they're just more careful, but still emotionally abusive. Still every little bit helps.

Have you tried suggesting to your sister that she seek counseling? Sorry I don' tknow the background story to this case, I'm just jumping in now.