bisexual

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Those of you who are bisexual - do you family and friends know? how did you tell them?

I'm having a tough time trying to aknowledge strong feelings I have for another female and I really want to explore this situation further. I have been with a girl several years ago but it was just a one night only thing. I enjoyed the experience but find myself attracted to men more often than women..so I'm really confused. The hardest part is none of my family or friends know and I wouldn't even know how to break the news (if I did pursue some kind of relationship).

Sorry if this is off topic :-/

Comments

[elephantus45.livejournal.com]

I am pretty sure my parents knew my whole life that I liked girls. Well at least since I was 11 or so. I've only ever had one girlfriend and she did meet my parents but I never introduced her as my 'girlfriend' or partner or anything. So its something we don't really talk about, but I don't feel the need to talk to them about it either.

I thought my friends knew, but apparently some of them didn't because I started talking about a new girl this past summer, and some of them were a little freaked out at first.

I feel as though I should also mention I'm getting married to a male this summer also, and I always knew I wanted to end up with a male as a life partner for the baby making aspect but if it happened to be a woman I fell for I wouldn't be disapointed.

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I'm glad you said the last part. I already feel like I've decided that my life partner will be male because I want a wedding and babies and all of that..so I don't know if I can call myself bisexual or not? I also don't know if I should be 'wasting' this girls time as she is gay. She's aware that I like guys too so I guess there will always be the possibility that I'll end up dating a guy at some point.

[arkeiryn.livejournal.com]

You could argue that I am "wasting" my boyfriend's time. I am primarily attracted to women (ranging from about 55/45 girls/guys to 90/10, depending on the day and my mood). And yet there is no way I am giving him up for the world. Ultimately, whether you are primarily attracted to girls or guys, it's the person that matters the most, rather than their genitalia. If you love a girl enough, you will find a way to have the wedding and babies and all that stuff, despite her lack of a penis and sperm (assuming a cis-gendered woman, not a trans-gendered one).

[elephantus45.livejournal.com]

I think you just have to be open with her. Some relationships are not always meant to be finding your life partner but ment for fun. Sorry if that sounds weird, its early in the morning for me. There is nothing wrong with seeing where it will go with a girl but talking about how you feel is probably the biggest part (if she is definantly looking for a life partner, would that change your view on the situation? or if she just wants an fb?)

I tried to keep an open mind, not looking for a guy or a girl just dating whomever I liked at the time. Until I met this guy and knew he was right for me, right away (and he let me date women until I decided not to, while being in a relationship with him, unopen on his side, which helped me to not feel trapped or anything).