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I've been getting a bit depressed recently because of all my woes with birth control. VP tends to be the place where people go with their problems, so we don't often hear good stories or see posts that say 'everything is going well'.
So I'd like to start a thread where people post good stuff.
So, what contraception are you using, what do you like about it? Are there any side effects? How do you cope with them? Would you ever change it? What disasters have you had with other methods before? How long did it take you to find the method that you are using now?
To start the ball rolling, I'm having a copper IUD fitted in 2 weeks time. I've tried mirena, Depo provera, 7 different types of combined pill and 2 types of progestogen only pills. I won't try the implant because the hormones are the same as a POP I've tried, which failed for me. My mirena expelled. Depo provera made me completely incapable of producing natural lubrication and I also bled the whole time. HBC makes me gain weight and breakout in acne, as well as have hot flushes and evil migraines.
I had a copper T IUD before and loved it, only switched to mirena because I didn't like the heavier periods. But now I've found a few supplements that should help, so I'm more hopeful this time.
So I'd like to start a thread where people post good stuff.
So, what contraception are you using, what do you like about it? Are there any side effects? How do you cope with them? Would you ever change it? What disasters have you had with other methods before? How long did it take you to find the method that you are using now?
To start the ball rolling, I'm having a copper IUD fitted in 2 weeks time. I've tried mirena, Depo provera, 7 different types of combined pill and 2 types of progestogen only pills. I won't try the implant because the hormones are the same as a POP I've tried, which failed for me. My mirena expelled. Depo provera made me completely incapable of producing natural lubrication and I also bled the whole time. HBC makes me gain weight and breakout in acne, as well as have hot flushes and evil migraines.
I had a copper T IUD before and loved it, only switched to mirena because I didn't like the heavier periods. But now I've found a few supplements that should help, so I'm more hopeful this time.
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Date: 2008-05-16 05:32 pm (UTC)side effects- heavier periods. in the last year though, they have even calmed down a bit.
I wouldnt change it for the WORLD. Unless I could get a tubal for free. Cost was a bit shocking at first but hell, I doubled up pills and condoms (and I have a latex allergy so it wasnt CHEAP condoms either!) so its already paid for itself.
Hormones suck for me. I ovulated during ALL forms of the pill. (which is why when girls mention a second period despite being on the pill, my radar goes off and I jump up and down and send out a warning on ovulation.) Yes, I know I ovulated, I got to see an egg bursting forth from my ovary on the bigscreen during a transvaginal ultrasound. (the nurse said "thats gorgeous!" I said... "that shits NOT supposed to be happening!!!").
High dose hormones, made me insane. quite literally. Coming OFF the hormones, was horrendous. but I am SO thankful tobe hormone free. Even if I do have NASTY pms. (need to get that checked out because its not fair tome or TheMan!)
I love my IUD. Im a huge supporter of IUDs in nulliparous women. TheMan, loves the IUD too and will talk to total strangers about it. Hes a fan, Im a fan. its been wonderful for us.
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:13 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 06:38 pm (UTC)My aunt also got pregnant on the pill. Both prefect users. And I doubt its just my family with their girly bits of wonder.
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Date: 2008-05-16 07:13 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 05:34 pm (UTC)I LOVE it because I only have 4 periods a year, I just skip the placebo week and continue on with my next pack. Pretty awesome! And I tested it out, cramps and the amount/length of my period is the same with every 4 weeks or every 3 months.
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Date: 2008-05-16 05:39 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 05:39 pm (UTC)I can stack them easily, which is great, especially since I'm a broke college kid, and tampons and panty liners every month get kind of pricey (yeah, I'll admit that part of the reason I stack is to save some cash on tampons...I've got one box of tampons that have lasted me since last fall...I rule!)
I was on Trivora to begin with, but after 2 months, I was crazy psycho lady, so I switched to a monophasic. Couldn't be happier.
There are only 2 minor problems I've found with stacking my pill:
1)If I go more than 4 packs or so, I will get my 'period' regardless of if I'm taking the placebos or not,
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2)My PMS is insane when I do get it. I've tried to be better about calming myself down and understanding that when I snap at people it's not me, it's the hormones doing it. The Boy is getting better at understanding that too.
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:02 pm (UTC)Plus, I feel like a human being again!
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 06:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 06:24 pm (UTC)Tried lots of pills, with mixed results; tried depo-provera, and I'm pretty sure that it's so effective at preventing pregnancy (for me) because I was so puffy, hairy, and cranky that no-one in their right mind would have wanted to have sex with me. >:O
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 06:34 pm (UTC)Have been on depo provera for the past year and really do love it. My skins gone a bit batshit at the moment but no periods, no bloatedness, an actual sexdrive!, not being a crabby old lady with everyone and not worrying about missing pills makes it all worth it.
No one really discusses their BC unless they are having issues with it. Which is a shame really
xx
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:36 pm (UTC)I feel so lucky to have gotten such a good method for me on my first shot. I wouldn't change anything unless I was trying to get pregnant for the first time!
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Date: 2008-05-16 06:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 06:50 pm (UTC)Previous to that, I was taking Necon 1/35, Generic to Ortho Novum 1/35. I took that birth control the longest. Starting when I was 16.
When I was 22, I decided I wanted to try the patch, Ortho Erva, because I wasn't exactly a 'perfect' user (not even closer to a typical user either). I was on the patch for about a year, year and a half (I don't really remember exactly, there was a lot going on at that time). During that time, I experienced what I affectionately called 'sausage foot'. My left foot swelled up to the point where you couldn't see the toe knuckles or any of the tendons. After visiting my PCP and then a podiatrist, it was concluded that the cause was fluid 'regurgitation'. I was prescribed a compression stocking. Imagine my horror at having to wear an old lady stocking. Eventually, coinciding with a break up, I decided I no longer wanted to be on birth control. Lo and behold, when I stopped using the patch, the swelling went away.
About a year of being off birth control (and many stupid drunken nights later) I decided that I should go back on, for my own good, and went back on Necon 1/35, and have been a perfect user ever since.
I hope to switch to Mirena if this current relationship lasts (it'll be a year next month, I'm giving until we hit the two year mark before I'll get it inserted).
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Date: 2010-06-15 02:40 am (UTC)Re: necon
Date: 2010-06-15 12:36 pm (UTC)I do have to add that while I did like Jolessa (Seasonale) at first, it had a really negative affect on my migraines and increased my blood pressure. I went from one or two a month to 2-3 a week with headaches every other day. It was awful. I started taking a preventative migraine med three months before I switched to the IUD, and then weaned off them this past christmas. I have been migraine free for over 1 1/2 years, and my blood pressure has returned to normal.
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Date: 2008-05-16 07:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 07:29 pm (UTC)http://sprtwrid.livejournal.com/184311.html#cutid1
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Date: 2008-05-16 07:49 pm (UTC)I had some stomach unhappiness when I first went on the pill, but it subsided after about a month. My boobs grew a tiny bit - I'm pretty much the only person who noticed and that's cause I don't wear shirts whenever possible. :P My cramps decreased and my blood flow was also lighter and shorter.
Recently though, my cramps have become worse and tend to last longer into the period. I don't know if it has to do with HBC or if it's just me getting older, but it's still quite manageable so I'm not too worried.
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Date: 2008-05-16 08:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 10:26 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 08:02 pm (UTC)but seriously...it rocks. not having to take a pill everyday is the most miraculous thing that has ever happened to me. and i can't feel it! I was most surprised by this because I figured it'd drive me nuts to have something in my vagina 24/7. but it doesn't! I felt it a little during the third week because it kept wanting to slip down but other than that it's been really great! and my fiance doesn't feel it during sex either which is good.
I feel less moody which is a very big improvement compared to my other experiences with the pill. the only complaint I have is that my skin is breaking out more. but it's not excessive by any means.
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Date: 2008-05-17 12:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 08:11 pm (UTC)I've been on Alesse or one of it's generics for almost 8 years. Never had any problems except when I miss a pill.
Tried the Nuvaring for about 6 months, but killed my sex drive and it became super expensive ($60/month!).
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Date: 2008-05-16 08:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-16 08:34 pm (UTC)I kid (mostly). Every kind of pill I've been on has been horrorshow with the migraines and the ZOMG THE WORLD IS ENDING depression. Nonoxynol-9 inflames my bits in agonizing and unfun ways. The lube on latex condoms seems to have a similar effect, though I noticed it far less with the polyurethane condoms and not at all with unlubed latex.
FAM was good to me, and even though I'm nowhere near sexually active with another human being, I still track my cycles (though not temps - my sleep habits are too wonky for the temp measurements to be accurate).
Best choices for me would be FAM + unlubed condom and/or a partner who doesn't make sperm.
Sorry for the novel, but I love my BC. *hugs*
Date: 2008-05-16 08:41 pm (UTC)By the time my doctor suggested HBC, I had been using the strongest perscription topical ointment available to me for years at that point, along with anti-biotics, but to little avail. It had finally got to the point that I was going in for monthly liquid nitrogen peels, and while they did help it was very painful and distressing because the effects of the peel only lasted for about two weeks, tops. (For those not familiar with liquid nitrogen peels, I always called them the "popcicle from hell," and they consisted of my dermatologist taking a tongue depressor, coating it with frozen liquid nitrogen mix, and then rubbing it across my face; when I first started getting them done my doc advised me that some people found it distracting to try and meditate on whether the cyro was so cold that it felt like it was on fire or so hot that it felt like quick-freeze ice D:).
Anyway, since I'd hit puberty and gotten all of my growing done within two years of that (I was a *giant* 5th through 7th grade, though I'm relatively petite now), my pediatritian said that it was all right to go on HBC even though I was on the young side. I had some issues getting it at first, given that I lived in an area very conservative when it comes to issues involving sex, but with my mom's support I've been on it and very happy with it ever since. If there are any side effects for me I've not really noticed them; once I had issues with my insurance and missed two months of pills and that sucked BIG TIME, so I'm definately much happier even now on them than off. Skin is EXTREMELY better, my moods are more balanced, and my periods, while still pretty heavy, are much shorter and almost completely pain-free.
Only issue that I have now is that now that there's a generic available for Ortho-Tri Cyclene I have to call and make sure the pharmacy has the brand name in stock before I can get my refill. There have been negative issues with the generic now offered for women who, like myself, take the pill primarily for the benefits hormone balance wise, with the BC being an added bonus. I'd much rather pay the extra five bucks a month than risk the possibility of depression that comes with the generic for gals like me.
One funny-ish little anacdote about my BC: my younger brother also had similar skin issues. He knew that I was on some sort of pill that had really helped me, so he asked his doctor whether or not he could go on the same pill that his big sis was on, you know, the one that came in a ring and was different shades of white, green, and blue. There was a bit of an awkward moment where my mom and his doc had to figure out a tactful way to explain that mine wasn't exactly a pill that boys could take and get the same effects. ;)
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Date: 2008-05-16 09:13 pm (UTC)I was on Ortho 7/7/7 and then Triphasil for a few years each -- no problems on either one. FAM worked well for the years we were avoiding in between our children, as well as helping time conception to get them. :) We used condoms and the sponge and a diaphragm, I didn't love any of those methods but we never got pregnant when we didn't want to.
I tried both Mirena (gave me migraines, but I loved it otherwise) and Paragard (removed because of the heavy bleeding/cramping) and while I loved the spontaneity, the side effects on both were too much for me.
And now my hubby is snipped, and that has been the best thing of all. :) I'm sort of sad to know my reproductive years are done, but just not worrying about it is such a blessing.
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Date: 2008-05-16 09:22 pm (UTC)One of partners is snipped, the other is not. We've only just got to the point of having condomless sex, so all the BC woes are starting over again! I will admit that the year or so when I had a nice sterile partner and no pregnancy worries with no BC interference at all was lovely!
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Date: 2008-05-16 10:00 pm (UTC)I like combined HBC in general because it gives me some control over my uterus. I stack packs to avoid the pain that comes with bleeding, so it's fabulous that I only need to go through this every 10 weeks or so, less often than my body would naturally. I also love that I can choose, to some extent, when to bleed. For instance, May is a super busy month for me generally, and this one was going to be especially so; at the end of April, I decided I could not deal with a withdrawal bleed in May, and so I took a hormone-free week then, when it was slightly more manageable for me to deal with. Additionally, it's nice to have periods that don't require me to empty my Mooncup every 3 to 4 hours for a week and a half.
I particularly like my current formulation because I've had no trouble with breakthrough bleeding while stacking, something that's been a problem with every other brand I've tried.
I don't like the increased acne and breast tenderness, but I can deal. I just stockpile the benzoyl peroxid, salicylic acid, and tea tree oil for the one and invest in good quality, supportive bras for the other. Also for the breast tenderness, I sometimes find myself wearing a cami top with a shelf bra to bed every once in awhile because it's just more comforable that way. I also experienced some lubrication issues at the end of my last hormone-free week/beginning of current pack that I think are at least partly attributable to the pills; marginally annoying, but lube is a quick fix. I do miss cycling regularly and being able to track those changes in my body; at the same time, I can no longer handle being in that much pain, bleeding that heavily, for that long.
Over the years I've been on -- please hold while I take off my shoes to count -- 13 formulations of combined HBC, 2 progestin-only pills, and Depo Provera. I have categorically become nauseated on every one of them; it's a "good brand" for me when the nausea doesn't result in (much) vomiting and/or it goes away within the first cycle. There's also the sensitivities to spermicide and latex, the recurrent breakage with polyurethane condoms, and the three expelled IUDs. There have also been the many, many frustrating phone calls, consultations, and rejections for tubal ligation. I also used FAM for a few years; it was great when I lived with my then-partner and when my periods weren't so bad, but... things change.
Overall, I've made quite a few BC switches over the years. For instance, I've tried 6 brands of HBC in the past 2 years, copper IUDs for several months before that, and FAM for a few years before that. At the time I used FAM, I wasn't really searching for another method; the same is true for my ParaGards, at least until the expulsions. But the HBC has been a renewed game of "guess and check." I'm glad I have a brand where it seems I've finally guessed right, more or less.
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Date: 2008-05-16 10:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-17 11:03 pm (UTC)I really like this pill so far...I haven't had any bad side effects at all except the nausea. My SO also pulls out, partially for the added protection, partly so I don't drip for hours afterward, and partly because I like playing with his jizz on my stomach =) hahaha
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Date: 2008-05-16 11:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-17 01:22 am (UTC)Agreed. When I used FAM as a primary method of contraception, my then-partner and I used "oral only" as our back-up method during my fertile times. Of course, it wasn't really oral only, but any form of sexual activity that didn't carry with it a reasonable risk of pregnancy.
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Date: 2008-05-17 12:31 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2008-05-17 01:53 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-17 02:34 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-05-17 05:55 am (UTC)My boyfriend did have rubbing issues and some pain for a little while, especially in certain positions (on top is a problem for some reason on occasion) but it seems to have been worked out with time.
Great idea for a post by the way, it's awesome to read everyone's stories. I feel so much smarter!
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Date: 2008-05-17 05:53 pm (UTC)Other than that it's fine - I haven't had any difference in sex drive/orgasms, depression or mood swings during the month, weight gain, etc. I think it might have made my hair a little less greasy, and weirdly, I don't get any hair on my upper lip any more. When I first started taking it my boobs got a bit bigger, but they've returned to normal now. On the whole, I don't mind it at all; the minor drawbacks are definitely worth the intimacy and convenience (and cheapness! I live in the UK so my BC is free) of condomless sex. :)