sex after baby?

[ever-abstract.livejournal.com]

Hello vulva-loving superstars.

I gave birth two months ago. I did everything I was supposed to by way of pelvic-floor toning but when push came to shove and my 20-hour home birth was nearly over, I pushed my baby out so hard and so fast that I tore. The midwives and I decided not to place any stitches and just let it heal on its own. The tear itself is really only about an inch and a half long, and it's pretty jagged. Now, everything is healed up and to my knowledge, everything is fully functional. However, I am terrified of having sex again. Don't get me wrong- I want to, badly. It's just that the scar tissue from the tear makes the tissues feel so firm, like they have absolutely no give anymore and I'm scared of the logistics. Prior to babyage, I had some pain when having sex with my husband because there's also a bit of a size issue there.

How does one get over this? How does one function normally sexually again? Can anyone relate to this?

TIA.

(PS- I checked the history and I couldn't find anything like this. If there is something I missed, please link me and I'll read away)

Comments

[elettaria.livejournal.com]

It's arguable whether annual exams are actually necessary. They appear to be the norm in the US, from what I've read here. They're not the norm in the UK. I suspect there's a lot of unnecessary medicating and treatment in the US because the healthcare system there is money-led, and I haven't heard that British women are having trouble because they're having gynae exams on an as-needed basis rather than every year.

[ellie-desu.livejournal.com]

The over medicating thing is a given, but I think it's a good thing to have a doc check over the girly bits and run a pap test. I've never had them randomly give me a medication of do unnecessary procedures (except Planned Parnethood did an STD test when I told them it wasn't needed, but I think that may be a standard policy to run it, and my surgery was waaaay necessary). Annuals, at least for me (and I think it may be what you make of it) are just simple check ups and prescription refills.

At least where I am you have to go back every 12 months to get your HBC prescription renewed.