Anonymous Post - Difficulty in Vaginal Penetration

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I have a load of vagina problems all of which come down to the fact that I cannot insert anything into my vagina - so no tampons, no PIV sex. I tried getting an annual exam twice and both times no luck. The doctor told me to return after I had sex - advice that initially depressed me but now just makes me angry. I need help on two things:

1. I have tried to insert very thin vibes and a single condom covered finger with lots of Astroglide but no luck. I also tried this during my period when I would be more lubricated but it did not work. I feel like my vagina has this small opening like between the couch cushions but no 'hole' as such. I am very frustrated with this and am considering that I have a thick hymen for some reason. I tried to look using a mirror and a flashlight but just see a small triangular indentation but no vaginal opening.

2. I have an appointment to see a new doctor. I am worried that I will not be able to tell the doctor what my problem is and that she will end up thinking that I just need to 'relax more'.

Is there any specific language I should use when I speak with the doctor? Is there some drug they can give me to help me relax? And, can I ask about my hymen. My ex-doc would never answer any of my questions about my hymen, and I felt too humiliated to press. I somehow felt that she was judging me because of my abstinent upbringing (which was due to not being able to manage PIV sex and not religious
reasons/upbringing)

Comments

[cheshirepurr.livejournal.com]

I had the same problem. I thought it was just an issue with relaxation, but no matter what I tried, nothing seemed ot work. After going to three different doctors, they determined that I had a microperforate (tiny opening) and septate (divided by a band of tissue) hymen. I eventually had all the stubborn bits surgically removed.

If you feel like your docs are judging you or not answering your questions, look into a visiting a new one. As OB/GYNs, they've pretty much seen it all in the way of genitals, so don't feel embarrassed to bring up anything you may have on your mind.

Hope everything goes well.