Relationship Milestones

[ruari-explained.livejournal.com]

I've recently started to see someone new and it got me thinking. How do you decided when to advance the relationship physically (ie kissing, oral, spending the night, sex)? Do you have a set amount of time, like 3 dates before having sex for example, or does it depend on the person?

I just feel silly thinking like "Well, on Tuesday I'll do this for the first time, and then when I see him next week, we'll go to third base. If things progress well, I'll let him stay over on the 23rd..."

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[imindiaunajones.livejournal.com]

The first time that I "got together" with my current boyfriend (of 2 1/2 years), we spent the night together. Nothing happened, but we still spent the night together, sleeping together. That continued for a couple of weeks or so, on and off, then we kissed and continued playing around the line of everything short of intercourse. We waited around 3 months after that first night, and then "did the deed" so to speak. Had neither of us been virgins, we probably would have gone for it sooner, I wanted to have sex about a month and a half after we started dating.
I don't know if we'll ever split, but if we do, I wouldn't be surprised if I were to go for sex only a week or two into the relationship. I'm a very sex-driven person. :) Haha