Relationship Milestones

[ruari-explained.livejournal.com]

I've recently started to see someone new and it got me thinking. How do you decided when to advance the relationship physically (ie kissing, oral, spending the night, sex)? Do you have a set amount of time, like 3 dates before having sex for example, or does it depend on the person?

I just feel silly thinking like "Well, on Tuesday I'll do this for the first time, and then when I see him next week, we'll go to third base. If things progress well, I'll let him stay over on the 23rd..."

Comments

[onemorefool.livejournal.com]

To be honest, I don't have any schedule for things physically in a relationship. (I have held off saying "I love you" but that was more out of a fear that the guy wouldn't say it back). In fact, I lost my virginity to a guy I had know for about 3 hours, and I didn't feel bad about it then and I don't now. Of course we ended up dating for almost a year after that. I don't think I've ever waited longer than a week to have sex, sometimes it works out to a relationship, sometimes it doesn't...but I guess I don't really care. I really like sex, and as long as I'm responsible and it feels comfortable, I'll have it as often and as soon as I want.