my partner has herpes

[-birkenstock.livejournal.com]

ok, we just found out that my fiancee has genital herpes.  i know that there is no 100% safe sex.. but i have a few questions regarding what is safer.

he has only had one outbreak, one small thing that blistered over and has now scabbed, and a little redness on the tip of his penis. 

obviously, we know not to have sex while he is having an outbreak, or if one is coming on.  does this include him performing oral sex on me?  he has never had a cold sore or anything, can it still be transmitted?  should we avoid oral sex all together, during an outbreak or not?

how long after the scab heals is it considered ok to have sex?

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[http://users.livejournal.com/_norma_jeane_/]

"we just found out that my fiancee has genital herpes"

[h0rsegurrrl.livejournal.com]

It must have been edited because yesterday it said "partner."

[-birkenstock.livejournal.com]

hey, yes i did edit it! i just thought that saying fiance would convey that its not just a casual relationship where i could just say "oh well.. guess we can't do it anymore!"