Is sex like an addiction?

[lunarcapricorn.livejournal.com]

Do some people really NEED sex? Like they can't function without it?

I would like to have a sex-less relationship, but I've noticed that when we go without for a while, my boyfriend gets more determined to have sex. He starts making dirty comments/jokes, grabbing me, touching me more, etc. He's not the nice man I know, he gets scary. Sometimes I really have to fight him off.

I don't understand it because I can go forever without. Do some people just NEED to have sex?

Comments

[numbersnletters.livejournal.com]

Being afraid of your partner is a situation that needs to be addressed immediately.

At Planned Parenthood, one of the things they asked me at my appointment (they ask everyone) is "Are you afraid in any of your relationships?" It sounds like you are afraid of him sometimes -- and it doesn't have to be all of the time for it to be a problem. Can you talk about what's going on with a trusted person? A therapist, member of the clergy, guidance counselor, or a friend?

If by "fight him off" you mean that he physically grabs you, blocks your attempts to disengage, touches you when you don't want to be touched, or is threatening to you in any way, that is abuse and you need to put a stop to it. I strongly suggest you Google "cycle of abuse" and see if that's what your relationship looks like.

The problem is not going to go away -- he will still want sex, you still won't want sex, and he will continue to be abusive and demanding when those two needs clash. It's not your job to fulfill his needs. You can't keep forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do. Please get help, TODAY.