sex on the pill

[quitlife.livejournal.com]

I have been on birth control for about three weeks now. My boyfriend really wants to come inside of me and I want him to too but I'm really afraid of getting pregnant. I just read the post about a girl whos boyfriend comes in her and then she inserts a tampon for about an hour and is safe. I know it's not the best idea but does anyone have any advice or think I can do this without getting pregnant?

Comments

[faylette.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure when the effectiveness of the pill kicks in (three weeks sounds long enough to me, but don't count on me) but if you're using it correctly and consistently, it is VERY effective in preventing pregnancy. 99%-ish?

But don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

HBC becomes fully effective against pregnancy after seven days of correct use (i.e. seven days with a NuvaRing in, seven days of taking a pill every day, etcetera). :)

[slow-awakening.livejournal.com]

It's effective 7 days of taking the pills PERFECTLY if you are a sunday start or start your pill mid-cycle.

If it's the first-day start (first day of your period) it's effective IMMEDIATELY.

Doctors suggest waiting a full month on the pill before you stop using back up because they want you to get used to taking your pills.

[samisapirate.livejournal.com]

Birth control is usually effective within 7-14 days.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

Just to clarify - HBC becomes effective against pregnancy after seven days of correct use. :)

[liquorlyles.livejournal.com]

If you take birth control everyday at the same time and have perfect use you generally have little chances of being pregnant, but its not impossible.

[lecabinet.livejournal.com]

Inserting a tampon after sex is NOT a form of birth control, it was suggested as a way to stop the semen falling down your leg afterwards. PLEASE don't think that using a tampon after sex would prevent you getting pregnant.

Read the instruction booklet which would be in your pill packet, it usually has an FAQ section. Maybe they have a website that can help you?

[slow-awakening.livejournal.com]

Ahhh, is that what she meant? Goes to show how differently we interpret what people say on the internet. This is exactly how people get miss-informed and end up with "OOPSIE" babies.

I am backing up lecabinet. Inserting a tampon after sex can by no means be used as a birth control method.

[herefishie.livejournal.com]

IAWTAC

[lurbos.livejournal.com]

To add to this, I could be wrong, But I would assume that keeping the semen up there by inserting a tampon would increase the risk of pregnancy?

[slow-awakening.livejournal.com]

Doubtful. It doesn't change a thing regarding fertility. It can MAYBE absord some semen or prevent SOME leakage but it doesn't add a thing to your ability to get pregnant. :)

[slow-awakening.livejournal.com]

I just read the post about a girl whos boyfriend comes in her and then she inserts a tampon for about an hour and is safe.

I'm just confused as to how this relates to having a man ejaculate inside you without a condom? Maybe I am just reading your sentence wrong or I'm having one of those days where my brain can't think right! Explain further for me? ;)

Anyway, no method of BC (whether it's hormonal or non-hormonal) is 100% effective against pregancy. On the pill, if used perfectly (taking your pill at the same time everyday, without fault) is 99%. If it's typical use (varied times in a day, missed pill, vomitting after ingesting a pill) is 92-95% effective. If combined with a condom, your chances are 0.1%!

The only 100% effective method is abstinence. Unfortunately. My mother got pregnant with me on condoms and my brother is an IUD baby.

You just do what you feel is right for you. If you do not feel comfortable NOT using a condom, then tell your boyfriend nicely that you rather not take the chance. Kind of like a no rubber? No sex! ;)

[thepeoplespoet.livejournal.com]

Birth control is highly effective, but you HAVE to be sure you are taking it correctly and not missing pills. I've had friends get pregnant while on the pill, but it was because they missed pills or had sex before the pills were effective. Three weeks should be safe, but if you aren't using backup be very careful. Make sure you have a set time for you to take your pills, try and do it around the same time every day, and make sure you don't miss. I set an alarm on my phone that reminds me, and that works pretty well for me.

Sorry, don't mean to jump on your ass. You'll be fine as long as you're careful.

[pupdetofu.livejournal.com]

To clarify, the tampon-after-sex method isn't for birth control -- it's just to soak up all the goo that slowly leaks out after sex and normally leaves a big wet spot on the sheet or whatever you're wearing. It doesn't make you "safe" from pregnancy in any way.

[free-me07.livejournal.com]

If you are on HBC, it is safe to let your boyfriend come inside of you. Using a tampon after sex won't increase your risk of pregnancy, but it won't reduce it either (though I'm not sure if that is what you're asking). If you are taking HBC, you are not ovulating. No ovulation = no pregnancy, no matter what you do or don't do to get the semen out after sex. If you take your pills everyday at the same time (or within a few hours), you are very much protected from pregnancy and do not need a back-up method if you know your partner is STD-free.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

Inserting a tampon after sex will not decrease your chances of pregnancy, if that's what you're wondering. The previous poster used it to prevent leakage, not pregnancy... for me, I just do the good old squat over a rag, Kleenex, or toilet. :)

If you're on HBC and using it correctly, your chances of pregnancy with full ejaculation in the vagina are extremely low. Used perfectly (taking a pill every day, at about the same time every day), HBC is over 99% effective over the course of a year (meaning, fewer than 1 in 100 women will get pregnant using only HBC for one year). Used "typically," (including things like irregular pill taking), HBC is about 95% effective.

With those stats in mind, if you do decide to have ejaculation in the vagina, you are considered protected from pregnancy on HBC. While many women choose to use multiple methods of contraception while on HBC, hormonal birth control is designed to be a woman's only form of protection, and it's more than fine to use it alone provided you are using the method correctly.

The primary function of HBC is to stop ovulation (it also acts in other ways to prevent pregnancy: by thickening the mucous at the cervix and thinning the uterine lining). If you are not ovulating, there is no egg present for sperm to fertilize, and thus you can't get pregnant. :)

So with that in mind, if you do choose to have ejaculation in the vagina, you needn't worry too much... you are protected from pregnancy.

However, if you still don't feel comfortable with ejaculation in the vagina, then that's your choice and your partner should respect it.

I hope this helps sweetie. :)

[ksausville.livejournal.com]

Toilet's best, since you're supposed to go to the bathroom after sex anyway to prevent UTIs.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

And this is also a very good point. :)

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

As the other users have said, 1) the pill was designed to be your sole form of birth control, and 2) the tampon after sex was to prevent leakage, NOT pregnancy. If you're willing, the best way to get used to the idea of ejaculation inside you is to try it right before your period. When you get your period that will show that you aren't pregnant, and perhaps after that you will be able to trust your birth control a little more. Also, if you decide to be brave and try him ejaculating inside you, if you've been taking your pill regularly just remind yourself, "I took my pill today at the right time, I've been taking it regularly, I've been doing everything right." And maybe remembering that will help you to be more comfortable with it.

If you just can't get past the worry, you wouldn't be the first woman to also use condoms/spermicide/diaphragm/another barrier method in conjunction with HBC. But, I will say it feels awesome to just be able to have sex sans a second method. I only use my NuvaRing (and before that, the Patch) and I've never worried about using a second method except when I was on antibiotics (and even then I was probably safe). But the best sex is worry-free, and if you can't manage that without a second method, go for the second method. Better to have the physical sensation or spontaneity a little reduced than to worry for a month about being pregnant.

[kaelstra.livejournal.com]

Okay, for starters, you should be protected by now. If you're unsure, use a backup method until you're comfortable with your pill. Most forms of birth control are 100% effective after seven days of correct use. Most doctors will advise you to wait a month though, because many people do not take them 100% perfectly, and it's their way of being cautious.

Secondly, tampons are in no way, size, shape, or form, any kind of birth control aide. It will NOT prevent pregnancy to jam a tampon in your vagina after sex. Yes, the tampon will absorb some of the semen, but not all of it-and it'll keep the semen crammed up against your cervix anyway, so it's not safe at all. It's just lending the illusion that you're "protected" but you aren't. All this does is absorb some semen and keep it from leaking back out afterwards. Some women insert a tampon for a bit after sex just to keep the flowback from annoying them, and that's not the same thing as actually protecting against pregnancy.

[sawyerlove.livejournal.com]

I'm proof that it isn't 100% effective as is my older brother (both conceived while my mum was on the pill) BUT if you've been taking it correctly, you should be fine like everyone else has said.

I love how half these comments say the same thing... Happens with a LOT of posts in most communities...

[herefishie.livejournal.com]

ask him if he really wants to be a dad as much as he really wants to cum in you.

give your body a chance to get used to the pill, at least 1 cycle. you can have all the splooge in you that he desires later.

[strawberrii-xo.livejournal.com]

lol great comment!

[herefishie.livejournal.com]

thank you, I'm here all night

;)

[sandi1743.livejournal.com]

i always recommend one month on the pill before going without anything else too!
to the OP: as stated and explained above, you should be fine, but if you are really worried, then how about HBC and a condom? - and that way he is still ejaculating in you and you do not have to worry about the mess as well.

[slow-awakening.livejournal.com]

splooge!!

that's just the funniest word EVER.

[sandi1743.livejournal.com]

true - just not too funny when it is happening to you1 ICK!