neumeindil.livejournal.comI'm at the end of my rope when it comes to buying underwear. I'm 5'9" and 195 pounds. I can usually get into size 18 jeans... if you don't mind that they gap at the back because the waist is so farking huge to get over my rear end that I can't keep a shirt tucked in.
I need to replace all of my existing underwear. Most ride up my behind, but the main problem is how badly they're cutting into my "buthigh" (the part of the back of your thigh that's not quite your butt cheek and not quite your leg). I've got permanent brush burn from the elastic/stitching of my panties (euch! hate that word), and if I go without them, my jeans usually just make the scabbing worse. Plus, I'm usually a little drippy at most points of my cycle, so going commando means I have to wash my jeans more often. I also can't go without underwear at work (retail) where I'm more likely to get my butt grabbed anyway.
But then there's the other problem: I'm somewhat picky. I won't wear a thong or g-string, I get enough UTIs and YIs as it is. I won't wear synthetic. String bikinis sit on top of my hip bone and pull the legs up, or slide down my hips and dig into the fatty part, which also hurts. Lo rise and hipsters just roll down and cause a lump and more cutting/chafing. That pretty much leaves me with regular briefs or hi cuts, which I'd be fine with... if I could find any solid colors. Since my waist/hip ratio is so disproportionate, any pair of undies I wear will be seen by strangers during the day, whether it's because I sit down in class before I pull my shirt down or if I have to bend over to scan something at work. I'd rather not have flowers or polka-dots hanging out of the back of my pants.
I'll be damned if I can find anything within those parameters in this tiny town, and I hesitate to order anything online that I won't be able to return. (Our stores: K-mart, Walmart, and eventually a Kohl's. The nearest Target or Victoria's Secret is a 90 minute drive away. The Lane Bryant closed.)
Any other larger ladies out there with this problem? Any suggestions?