HSV-1 and HSV-2 Infections

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Hey, I have a question for you all. My boyfriend has HSV-1 (oral herpes) and I guess I have it too (my last cold sore was five years ago). My question is, how easy is it for him to transmit HSV-1 to me as genital herpes (HSV-2)? I know it's possible, but I'm wondering, if so many people have HSV-1 (~80%) then how come more people haven't accidentally transmitted genital herpes (20-25%)?

Thanks!

Period again? On Birth control. Maybe spotting?

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I already had my period for January. Because that's when I started my birth control.  But this morning I bled but not very heavy and feels like I'm on my period. I only seem to have bled for about 15min or something. And when I went to bathroom again within like an hour or a little less, I wasn't bleeding. The blood went from bright to dark(maroon ish color).

Very strange. I'm not sure if this is spotting or really my period. I've never spotted before. But I don't think it was spotting.

Edited

My period only lasted 4 days instead of the usual 5 days Because I started the Birth Control. .So I'm wondering if maybe that's it.

pre-cum worries/pregnant???

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 Hi, I'm new here so I'm not really sure how this goes, but I hope someone can give me advice or assurance cause I'm freakingggg out.

My boyfriend and I have been fooling around for over a year and we've always been so careful and used a condom every single time.  The other day we had protected sex and he peed afterwards and wiped everything off.  We got ahead of ourselves a few minutes after that and he stuck it in but only for a few seconds before we realized what we were doing.  I jumped up and ran to the bathroom and I noticed drops of white stuff in the toilet.  He said he didn't cum because we had JUST gotten done having sex and he was too tired, but I'm so scared!  I know there's a possibility I could be pregnant, but should be really worried about it or is the possibility too slim to stress out over?

And also, he keeps telling me I'm fine because I was on top when this happened.  That "gravity" comes in effect and you can't get pregnant when the girls on top.  I don't think this is true, but I want to see what other people think about this before I try to prove him wrong because he's always got to be right lol.

thank youuu! 

EDIT:  THANK YOU EVERYONE! All of your comments were a great help!  My boyfriend realizes that it was very unwise of him to believe such a far-fetched theory so I finally proved him wrong! B) thanks again!  I'll definitely recommend VP to anyone with any need of help or advice with  sexual/girl problems.

Getting in touch with the doctor about birth control

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I'm looking for advice on what I'm suppose to do next.

On January 7th(it was a Monday) I had my first appointment with my new gynecologist. I was going to talk about birth control.
I had my exam done, we talked about different options and the options I would like. I want to go on the mini pill, he suggested an IUD, but I'm iffy because I don't know about the whole if you get an STD sorta thing. But I can only be on certain types of birth control because I have a blood disorder which my body doesn't make my blood thin enough and it clots very easily and I'm on blood thinners. Anyway, I told him what I wanted and how I've done some research and the mini pill and other ones like that are usually given to those who have had blood clots or smoke. He said that he would do some research and to call him that Friday to tell me what he thinks and where our next step would be.

I couldn't call him Friday because I got out of work late. So I called him on Monday and they asked for my number and said he'd call me back. He never did. So I believe the following week, I called them(On Tuesday) again telling them I had called last week and they said "Oh he was away this week, I'll take your folder out put it on his desk and he'll call you after three." It never happened. So basically now I'm getting pissed off that this doctor forgot about me. I went to him so that I could protect myself and its really upsetting me.
How do I go about handling this? Do I just call again and say how I've called TWICE for two weeks and still haven't heard from him? Or do I get all pissy on the phone and start ranting how I'm trying to protect myself and as a doctor he doesn't seem to care.
I understand that doctors are very busy people, but seriously, its been three weeks since I saw him. Plus I haven't even gotten anything about my pap smear yet. I thought that takes two weeks.
I'm having the worse luck with gynecologists.

And one more question, does anyone have that arm implant thing? He suggested that too, but he was all "It only lasts a year (I thought it was 5?) and its a mini surgery. I don't mind the idea of it, I just want some feed back about it, did it hurt, do you like it, yada yada yada, you know, thoughts on it.

Sorry if this seems all over the place, I just woke up. Been having a rough week.
So any help would be great.

effecting my period?

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so a few weeks ago i posted about a minor incident i had with my SO.
when we were fooling around he got a little too aggressive with his hands and i ended up bleeding kind of a lot at first.
the bleeding got really light after a few hours but was there for a few days.

i was supposed to start my period a few days ago but it hasnt come yet.
so im wondering if my little incident somehow threw everything off? =/

or maybe i just counted the days wrong for when im supposed to get it?

ive been getting cramps and cravings so i feel like it wants to come but it hasnt.

What you wish they would have taught us in sex ed...

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This is more of a post for fun (and dreaming of a better world where sex is not some rocky road most of stumble blindly along for years before finding our way)

As a woman, what do you wish you had been told during sex education? What little bit of knowledge could have made your sexual life so much easier?

Try posting it as a little factoid, like you'd read in a text book :) Discussions around sex ed totally welcome too! If I ever have a child, you can be sure that sexuality will be something they won't be clueless about!

For me:

"80% of women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone"

Abuse Support Groups?

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Please erase this if it is too far off topic but I was wondering if there are any active support groups (on LJ or otherwise) that deal with female survivors of abuse from men (being physical, emotional, domestic, etc.).  Thanks!

PMDD

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Hi I'm new.

Someone on the community Datinandrelatin [I don't know how to link it] referred me to this community when I posted an entry about my PMDD.

( This is the post I wrote )

So white stuff and stinging

[stufey.livejournal.com]

Okay so earlier in the month I had stinging and white shit, treated for yeast, nothing happened, treated for BV and started my period a few days later.
now today I am almost finished with my period and I have white gunk around my clit, it's not itchy so it couldn't be yeast. I'm wondering if sex will be comfortable in a day or two when I'm done bleeding. Do I need to treat for BV again since I had my period? could something else cause white stuff besides BV and yeast? I'm married and we do stuff with girls sometimes, I don't have any STI's so it couldn't be that. My vagina hates me please help!

Depo Shot and High Blood Pressure

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To the point:

Is the Depo Provera shot safe for women with fairly high blood pressure?

A doctor I saw mentioned the possibility of my being able to have the shot when I expressed my frustration at not being able to use BCP to make my menses a bit more bearable.

I would jump up and down if this was actually true, but I was with the belief that all HBC methods are not recommended for hypertensive people. (My BP is usually recorded around 160-180/95 if that makes a difference).

Is one method safer/more recommendable than the other? (BCP vs. Depo)

Thanks.

Favorite GLYCERINE FREE lube?

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Hey Everyone,

So, I'm not particuarly prone to YIs, but I just had my first one and am hell-bent on avoiding them in the future! I guess I'm kind of a baby. ;)

So now, I'm looking for a new lube! I have been using astroglide (boring!) but I think it's got glycerine in it, and now that I'm a paranoid-polly about YIs, I don't want to use it anymore. I was hoping to pick up a non-YI-causing silicone based AND water based so that I can have a little variety. My dude always wants to have shower sex, and we've never really been able to, so I'm hoping that the silicone will help with that. And of course I need a water based one for those "close to needing my divacup" days. I'm having trouble decifering the info online though - drugstore.com has some lubes listed as water based that don't have water as an ingredient, and seem to have the same ingredients as the silicon based lubes? WTF. Anyway, I need help!

So! What are your favorite NON-GLYCERIN water-based and silicone-based lubes? (And can anyone help me figure out why the so called water-based lubes appear to not actually be?)

Primolut-Nor Use

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Hi everyone!

This is my first time posting but I have been using this site regularly for all the great advice! I have a question about the use of Primolut Nor... is it considered a birth control pill? I've read the flyer and googled it but the information just isn't clear to me like the Yasmin instructions or the HBC page on here. The thing is I live in Jordan and these are the pills I happen to have and can't really access other birth control pills cause I'm unmarried and without a gyno. My boyfriend and I use condoms but they restrict the sensations for the both of us.

So yeah, does Primolut Nor constitute as a birth control pill? If so, how is it used most effectively? I really want the utmost protection possible. Thanks a lot!

BV and menstrual cups

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Since I switched to Necon 7/7/7, I've been seemingly more susceptible to BV--especially when I'm using menstrual products. The new birth control has significantly lightened my period to the point where I can use a slender tampon and be spot-free all day. The problem is that if I leave a tampon in for more than an hour or two, I get BV. Also, leaving the tampon in for such a short period of time ensures that I'm going to be pulling it out dry--which is not a happy experience for me. Pantyliners and pads irritate the HECK out of my skin, and give me BV as a nice little itchy, smelly afterthought.

Obviously, something needs to be done. I'll miss tampons, though I won't miss supporting that stupid campaign to send tampons to Africa. My only question is thus: has anyone here suffered from repeated infections with disposable menstrual products and experienced success with a cup? My one worry is that I'll shell out some $$ and the cup will somehow be even worse for my poor itchy bits.

Growing Labia

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Do women gain weight in their labia? My weight has fluctuated and I haven't noticed a difference in myself, but I am seeing someone who has a "fetish?" "thing?" "attraction?" to a larger labia. I don't necessarily want to change mine for him, but I was curious as to the implications of weight gain or loss to ALL body parts.
Thanks :)

Longest/shortest sex sessions you've experienced?

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Just a fun little question that occurred to me:

What's the shortest AND longest sex session you've had? 

For me, my shortest has been under a minute (eek) and for the longest, close to two hours (maybe longer).

(no subject)

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I think I've got an infected hair follicle on my outer labia. What to do?

It looks like a large pimple--but it doesn't seem to have changed or gotten smaller over the past few days. To complicate matters, I'll be out of town for the next two weeks, and won't be able to go to the doctor before that. What should I do?

Implanon and plan B

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So here's my situation:

I go tomorrow to get my implanon implanted. Finally. I, however, had unprotected sexual intercourse with the bf today.He ejaculated inside of me. Not too worried about STI's, but I was just wondering if the implanon would somehow make plan b unnecessary or if I should partake of both of them in one day.

Also, if I do not get the plan B and do indeed end up pregnant, would the implanon harm the growing baby?

And just to rant, because i need to:

Do not trust the pull out method of birth control. Not in my situation. Always wear a condom kiddo-s. (I know, it works for some of you, but...it failed for me.)

I really really do not want to get plan B, if there is the beginnings of a baby, I would rather let it grow, but...finances dictate different.
/rant.


Thank you guys for being great.

nipple tenderness and a lot of discharge

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Recently I've had a lot, I mean A LOT if discharge. It's clear/whitish and is usually thin in consistency. It's a lot more than usual, sometimes it feels almost like I peed a little. In addition I just noticed my nipples are tender... but not the whole breast. I don't think I should be expecting my period, however it was a week early last month.

What could this all be about? I'm sexually active and condoms are my main form of birth control, I'm not on any HBC.

Thanks :D

Swollenness

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I've noticed today that the skin in front of my clitoris is very, very swollen. It's not the skin immediately surrounding it, but the flatish/fatty? area before it. One side is extremely swollen while the other side is a bit swollen as well. Should I be worried about this? What could have caused this? I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday and masturbated today if that would make any difference. It's not painful or itchy or anything, just very very swollen.

Implanon? Diaphragm?

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Hi VPers, 

I've been wanting to get back on birth control lately but I'm debating about what method to use. I was on HBC (Mircette) for about 7 years and went off of that a little over a year ago. The Mircette was fine for the first few years but the last two it totally killed my sex drive. I went off of it when my BF and I broke up and because I wanted to give my body a break from the hormones. 

So now I have a new BF and I want to get back on a reliable BC method but I'm not crazy about the idea of going back on the pill. I'd like to avoid hormones all together but that just may not be practical. I'm debating right now between Implanon and a diaphragm or cervical cap of some kind. So I'm wondering what other people's experiences have been with these methods. What are the side effects and/or inconveniences? The benefits?

Thanks!! 

HBC and Depression

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Hey all. I was wondering if anyone could direct me to any good sites or articles about HBC and depression. I've noticed that about the same time that I started on birth control (NuvaRing), I started having some intense episodes of depression and self-loathing, and I don't know if the timing is just coincidental or if the birth control is causing/contributing to it.

Also, if it is the latter, is that something I should expect with all forms of HBC, or are some more prone to causing it than others?

CRAP! F***!!! SH!T... Now I'm panicking

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I should've asked here first, but is excessive discharge a sign that you could be pregnant?

I got off my period on the 18th, sorta had sex that following Monday -- the21st and am in the midst of a pregnancy scare. I wasn't going to worry about it until two weeks before my pd, but I decided to look it up (the discharge question). I read on Yahoo where it basically means you're pregnant.

The past two weeks (but especially this week) I've been noticing a heavy amount of discharge, an amount that I don't normally get about a week before my period. This is discharge that I can *feel* expelling out (almost like feeling blood expel) and I check my panties and it's stained white sometimes or huge dry streaks of white. O_O

I thought discharge was a GOOD SIGN (of your period coming)? Am I grossly misinformed?

feeling bloated

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The last week or two I have been feeling so bloated and strange.  My stomach doesn't actually hurt, but it has just felt off and bloated, and it only seems to happen at night between dinner and bedtime.  I don't get a period due to my birth control pill (projestin only pill), but even when I did have periods I was never one to get many PMS symptoms such as bloating, so this feeling is kind of new to me.  Can feeling bloated be a symptom of pregnancy?

My boyfriend has complained of not feeling quite right either lately, and I know he isn't pregnant, haha, but I cannot be sure if he and I are really experiencing the same feelings since I cannot know exactly how he feels.   I haven't had an actual scare to make me wonder, but we stopped using condoms a few months ago and rely only on the pill (which I take on time religiously) so any change in how I feel makes me wonder because I am a teeny bit paranoid about relying only on one form of birth control.  I do take a test now and again to calm my nerves, they are dollar store ones, so I can afford to take them somewhat often, but I am trying to break myself from being soooo paranoid and taking a test every month.  And I do wonder how reliable they are.  I assume they have to pass the same FDA regulations as the regular priced ones, but if anyone has any info on how comparable they are to the expensive ones that would be much appreciated.

Back to topic, I have been trying to watch what I eat recently and have started a work out routine.  My eating changes have really just included more fruit and veggies and no fast food in the last month, switching to diet pop and more water, etc.  Could it just be my change in diet making me feel different?  I thought healthier eating should make me feel better though, not worse.  Any suggestions!