hey i have a question which you guys probably get all the time, so you can delete this post if its too repetitive. i'm 18, I lost my virginity about 4 months ago, but never had sex with that guy again. Now I have a boyfriend and we have been having sex for about 2 months, so he is the first guy i have had sex with on a regular basis and i still felt pretty inexperienced when we started.
He is amazing in so many ways, and in bed he is all about taking care of me and not being selfish. He always says his favorite thing to do is go down on me. the problem is, i can never finish. i think i have finished like one time in the past two months. also, when i go down on him he always goes on and on about how i am really amazing at it but he never finishes from that, but when we have piv sex he never has any problems orgasming. So I just feel like I suck at everything! I can't get him to orgasm from oral, and i can never have an orgasm myself!
At first I was thinking ok this is not a big deal, everything he does feels so good so who cares if i don't have an orgasm every time, or practically ever? But it is starting to get really frustrating!! Now I don't even want to masturbate anymore because after I orgasm by myself i just get really upset because I would rather just be able to orgasm from him instead of me! Also, even though i know he says he loves doing stuff to me, i always feel bad, like i am taking too long and think that he is probably just wishing i would finish because hes like getting bored or something. and i know that if you sit there and think about orgasming you will never be able to, so i just say forget it a lot of the times. he gets really sad and thinks that hes not good enough but he is like ten times better at everything than anyone else i have ever been with, i just must have some kind of mental problem stopping me from orgasming with another person, and i try to tell him this. i feel like i get so close a lot of the times but just can't get all the way there.
this is really frustrating and everytime i think about it i practically want to cry...i don't want this to ruin our relationship or him to break up with me to find someone who comes easier or has more experience but i dont know what to do. im sure he wouldnt do that anyway and im just being paranoid but this not orgasming thing is bad for our relationship a little, because it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me and i feel like i just suck at everything while he is so good at everything and i dont want to lose him just because i suck at sex :(
so basically i am just wondering if you guys have any advice if you had a similar experience and how you finally got yourself to orgasm in front of your guy on a regular basis or just any words of encouragement...thanks so much! :)