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[bloodandfur.livejournal.com]

Hi there.

I have been yearning for a place to write about my sexual adventures, experiences, experiments, trials and errors, curiosities, etc.

Hence, my new journal, dedicated to just those things: october_crisis
Add me if you like reading erotica and sexual stories, I may even get back into writing my erotic stories.

_Lin_

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[mikava.livejournal.com]

this guy that i know and have hung out with before was arrested the other day for sexual assault of a minor. she was 13, i think he's 16. he got her drunk first, too. it's widely known between me and some of my friends that he has sex with tons of girls that consider themselves to be his gf. he normally targeted unintelligent or young girls and had sex with them. most, if not all, had given their consent so basically he just took advantage of girls, never full-blown rape. i don't know what to think anymore because, although i never cared for him due to his womanizing (for lack of a better word), my bf was friends with him. he never liked how he treated girls, but he was still friends with him since he was there through some tough times.
i need some help on what to do. i haven't talked to my bf since i found out, but if he's upset about this, i don't know how to react since i think the guy got what was coming to him.
can anyone give me advice on this?

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[bluecellypelly.livejournal.com]

does anyone else in this community have trouble viewing the memories section? it says there are over 600 memories...but when i click on it i only see one...some birth control quesiton..?? i'd like to view the other 600 memories but for some reason cannot...hmm..

Kama Sutra

[nsoroma79.livejournal.com]

My husband and I were watching Real Sex 29 the other night, and there was this bit on Kama Sutra and some of the positions. Well of course, we had to try at least one...and It was UNBELIEVABLE! Now my question is.... How many of you practice this, and what books or videos are the best at teaching KS? If all orgasms are like that through KS positions, I will never have regular sex again!!!!!

Thanx

regarding the Pill and feminism

[finding_helena]

I know that this is not a debate community, but I've felt compelled to respond to some recent posts that have criticized the Pill on medical grounds. I do not mean to criticize any individual members of this community with this post, but rather to speak about a general political movement that I have seen some snippets of.

There are some people who say that maintenance drugs like the Pill are pushed by some medical professionals because it's "easier" to take them than it is to have cramps/your period/whatever, and no mention is made of the side effects. I believe that there is some truth to this statement. However, I do not believe that this is the whole story. The Pill is not a bad thing for all women, and not all women will choose to use natural methods of birth control/moderating physical problems, even if information is available to them on these natural methods.

Many of the people who are pushing women to realize that the Pill oppresses them do not take this into account. Their attitude appears to be that if women are made aware of the problems with the Pill, they will all realize that it is evil. To this end, they exaggerate problems that people have had with the Pill. They call this line pro-woman, as if scaring women into believing that the medical establishment is out to get them is a valid way to persuade us that we should listen to their gospel. I am not denying that there are women who have had serious medical problems while on the Pill, and that there are also women who simply don't want to take it for whatever reason. I believe that these women's voices should be respected and not minimized. However, there are many other women who have had few or no problems and are not bothered by taking the Pill. There are also women who are helped by taking the Pill--those with debilitating cramps, PCOS, or those who simply do not wish to get pregnant and don't want to use the fertility awareness method or other birth control methods.

Frankly, I am just plain turned off by a movement that implies that all women who take the Pill do so because they don't realize their options, aren't educated, and are pushed into it by evil doctors. I am not ignorant, stupid, or out of touch with my "true inner self" (which means something different to each person, too.) I am perfectly well-educated, researched all of my options, thought about it a lot, and eventually decided to take the Pill because I believe that the benefits outweigh the problems. I have also had only minor problems on the Pill, but if I began to have bigger ones, I wouldn't curse the medical establishment--I would simply rethink my decision. The types of articles that I've seen posted in this community lately imply that no woman would take the Pill were she to be clearheaded and have her eyes open to the whole truth about it. I am living proof that that is not the case.

I believe that a truly pro-women line would take all methods and ways of life into account. I would like to see a movement to educate women about the real consequences of their birth control decisions--all of them. I would like to see a movement that has a comfortable space for women who want to chart their cycles and tune in to their hormonal fluctuations, but also for women who don't really care (with an explanation of why they might want to care, but acceptance if they still don't want to anyway.) The truth is that neither the medical establishment nor those who claim that it is evil are entirely right. Both lines of thinking have their problems. I believe that there could be a happy medium in which knowledge is advanced, not blind following of any dogma, be it pro-Pill or anti-Pill. I would like to see medicine (any system of medicine) used less as a religion and more as a tool we can utilize as we see fit. I would like to see women sharing knowledge with each other and respecting each other's choices, rather than dismissing them because "obviously she's ignorant of the truth, which only I know!"

If we tell women that the only way of being in touch with their femininity is not to take the Pill, we are as bad as the patriarchy and any ways that they try to define femininity. Respect for, and information on, women's choices should be the order of the day.

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[nizikki.livejournal.com]

Ok... question. My boyfriend has really, and I mean REALLY, got a problem with coming too early. We have tried the extra pleasure condoms and they work, but he can't really feel anything. Is this something he needs to go to a doctor for, or do you know of anything we could do by ourselves?

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[finding_helena]

We had a concert in Women's Chorus last night, and our theme was "Phenomenal Woman" (from the Maya Angelou poem). Somebody read this piece, "A Mother's Advice To Her Daughters." It was so beautiful that it made me cry. If only all women had a safe space and advice like this.

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[edeniell.livejournal.com]

Genital Warts

This is a request for any experiences with genital warts, including (if possible) a list of the things that can and cannot be safely done with a person who has genital warts, and perhaps the different risks involved with different sexual acts.

I think I have a good idea of what wouldn't be 100% safe (basically everything involving genitals), but I am just trying to gather as much information as possible. My yearly gynecological exam is coming up, so I'm planning on asking them for all the details as well.

Thanks in advance, I appreciate this community. :)