Question...

[ldygabilan.livejournal.com]

Why doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me. I mean... we fool around and do sexual things. But, the actual ACT of sex doesn't seem appealing to him anymore.. ever.

He'll go down on me, use the vibrator on me and he'll even jack off to me. But, he hasn't been in the mood for actual intercourse in what seems like weeks.

It's all fun when he does that other stuff to me.. but I really would just to have him, you know? What can I do? Is this my fault??

Comments

[inkster.livejournal.com]

I agree with the talking to him part. The only way you'll know his side of things to ask him.

And because a lot of men (and women) can get defensive about that sort of thing, try to tell him how you're feeling about things and how you see things and then ask for his side of things. If you keep it so that you're just telling him how you feel, rather than pointing out all the things that he's doing wrong or accidentally accusing him of things, it's a lot easier to keep a nice discussion going because he hopefully won't feel defensive.

Examples are, "I feel that I'm less attractive to you" instead of "you find me less attractive" and stuff like that.

Good luck!