bisexual

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Those of you who are bisexual - do you family and friends know? how did you tell them?

I'm having a tough time trying to aknowledge strong feelings I have for another female and I really want to explore this situation further. I have been with a girl several years ago but it was just a one night only thing. I enjoyed the experience but find myself attracted to men more often than women..so I'm really confused. The hardest part is none of my family or friends know and I wouldn't even know how to break the news (if I did pursue some kind of relationship).

Sorry if this is off topic :-/

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[spiffychicky.livejournal.com]

I identify as queer and sleep with both men and women, and have been in serious relationships with both. My friends always know pretty much immediately because we're all very open with out sexualities and relationships. But I never really knew what to do about my family. It felt very strange to "come out" as bisexual (an identification I'm not comfortable with, but that I pull out when I don't feel like explaining queerness and genderfucking and a disavowal of binary systems) to my family, probably because there's not really a script for that in our society, is there? There's a traditional gay coming out narrative that, while it obviously isn't the same for everyone, kind of gives you a place to start.

I just chose to tell my mother, all unsolicited like (she's kind of the keeper of my personal tales, I usually trust that she passes the news on to my dad). I picked a point in time where I wasn't in a relationship with anyone, so it wouldn't be written off as a one-time thing, or an experiment, or anything equally derailing. And I just said there was something personal I wanted to talk to her about. The conversation didn't go very far, because she's pretty conservative about any kind of sex talk, but she was supportive and accepting (both of which I expected) and I'm glad that she knows at least that much.

The polyamory and BDSM on the other hand...