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[emo-princess.livejournal.com]

When I have sex it still hurts really bad..I have no clue if this is going to be an every time thing or not!! I mean I have had sex with my boyfriend about 6 or 7 times now and it doesnt seem to be getting any less painful for me. I was just wondering if maybe this is normal and if others experience this as well??

Also my boyfriend noticed that when he fingered me there was a lil' hump right when he put his finger in like his fingers had to go over a lump to get to the "good stuff". So I have no idea what this would be or if its normal or what?? please help because I am quite scared!!

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[mangofandango.livejournal.com]

As for the sex that hurts - you shouldn't put up with it if it's his technique that's doing it (as in, being too rough or not waiting until you're good and ready to be penetrated). However, if you're waiting until you're very turned on, being gentle with yourself when you get started, and making sure you're very wet, chances are you've just got some hymen left, or are very small. It took my body a few *months* to adjust so that sex was comfortable from the beginning - and we were doing everything right and being very patient and gentle.

I know you said you're very wet, but lube sometimes makes a huge difference anyway. I am usually very wet when I have sex, but I still find lube important. I really like Eros silicone lube myself, because it's extra slippery and doesn't dry up, but any lube is fine to try.

Are you conciously relaxing your vagina muscles before you start trying to put his penis inside you? That helped me immensely. It was one of the things I wasn't doing, and once I started doing it - big difference.

As for the "lump" - I suspect you're talking about your pubic bone, though it's hard to tell.You mean right inside your vagina, kind of on the top part? (If you havent' felt for yourself, you really should.) That's almost definently your pubic bone, and yeah, that's normal. :) I'm assuming you know where your clitoris is and everything, but if not, there's lots of diagrams in books or on the web (someone here could probably recommend a good one). If you don't know where your basic parts are, you should definently learn - it will make sex better, it will make you feel more informed and in control, and it will definently give you a better idea of how to pleasure yourself.

[emmett-the-sane.livejournal.com]

As for the "lump" - I suspect you're talking about your pubic bone

That was my guess, too, especially since she said "inside", and indicated that the hump itself wasn't the good part. My thought is that she's talking about her g-spot.

(the following directed towards the original poster)

Emo, I'm sorry that intercourse is painful for you. While I'm very much behind the idea that others have said about seeing a doctor, I also recommend perusing the book For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0451202007/qid=1065807104/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/002-8550849-0772054). It's a book that I read (I'm male) because my first gf had very similar kinds of problems to yours. Written by a sex therapist, it takes a very non-clinical approach to explaining all aspects of female sexuality from a practical, useful point of view (much of it applies equally well to some men, I've found).