Hey it's me, the one who thinks she's pregnant.

[emmalou290.livejournal.com]

 I called my doctor today because I'm still freaking out.

I told her about the bleeding 3 or 4 days after sex.

She said "I know a lot of women who experience implantation bleeding that soon after sex. I would bet you are pregnant. Come in to see me and let's talk about your options."

My boobs are sore, I'm crampy, my period isn't coming, you guys I think this is it.

I've never been this scared in my entire life.

Comments

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

That was, to be frank, a ridiculous thing for your doctor to say... and "I would bet you are pregnant" strikes me as a very odd thing for a doctor to say. It is extremely unlikely that you are pregnant, there is no reason to believe that you are pregnant, and three to four days is very soon for implantation to occur.

I wish there was more I could do to help you feel better, other than to repeat this. I'm going to put these here as a point form, and be blunt:
+ Your chances of pregnancy, using condoms and withdrawal correctly, are less than (http://www.scarleteen.com/article/reproduction/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_s) 1 in 1,000 per year. So the chances of becoming pregnant from that one incident? Astronomically low.
+ Many things can cause a bit of spotting, fingering being among them. Taken alone, it is not even remotely close to strong evidence of pregnancy, especially not so soon after the event in question.
+ Sore boobs and cramps sound more like PMS to me, especially, again, given the timing.
+ There's some chance of pregnancy whenever a penis and vagina have sexual contact. But in this case, there is no reason to believe you are pregnant. You used two forms of contraception correctly. Contraception is designed to prevent pregnancy reliably.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

And I'm just going to throw this out there, because I think it's important to say this too. I was for quite awhile (and will be again, hopefully) a volunteer unplanned pregnancy counsellor at a women's health clinic. I met many, many women, from all walks of life, who were experiencing an unplanned pregnancy.

And I want to say this: many of them came in there terrified out of their mind and more scared, as you say, then they've ever been in their life. But all of them -- every last one of them -- found a way forward that worked for them. All of them lived through the experience, many coming out the other end stronger and more empowered than when they came in. (I know this, becaus they told me.)

I just want to put that out there. I think the terror of an unplanned pregnancy is magnified with this idea that we can't handle it, so it becomes this massive, mysterious, terrifying thing we don't feel equipped to take on. But in reality, I have seen over and over that countless people who go through that experience discover that it is indeed something they can handle, and live through, and move forward from.

[patsrockmybosox.livejournal.com]

As someone who's come out on the other side, I couldn't agree more!

[velkoria.livejournal.com]

wow, I'm not pregnant, or worried about being pregnant at the moment but your comment helps a lot! Being scared of getting pregnant is a HUGE fear of mine, and most women and yet SO many do it and well... it's just comforting to read your comment for whenever I freak out and have those 'moments' of fear =)