Sex after Pregnancy is painful!
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Im really starting to think somthing is WRONG with me.. Im 8 months post partum and everytime me and my husband attempt to have sex it hurts. It hurts when he penetrates acouple of inches( i was always under the understanding that you only have nerves in the bottum 2 inches of your vagina so im confused!) Its really hard to describe it feels like burning/stinging and just that I cant let him go any further becase it hurts to much.
It also stings and hurts to use lube?? I have no idea why...
has anyone had this? know what it is? any advice/ideas
some background:
1st baby
vaginal delivery
i had a 2nd degree rip/no epi. and lots of stitches which i thought healed well I had no pain.
I exclusivly breastfeed my infant.
Thanks in advance for any comments!
It also stings and hurts to use lube?? I have no idea why...
has anyone had this? know what it is? any advice/ideas
some background:
1st baby
vaginal delivery
i had a 2nd degree rip/no epi. and lots of stitches which i thought healed well I had no pain.
I exclusivly breastfeed my infant.
Thanks in advance for any comments!
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Date: 2010-11-16 11:24 pm (UTC)It doesn't feel like stinging for me, though, it feels like... someone poking hard until it hurts, only it's already to the point and he's just poking it more.
I could not figure out a way to make that not sound dirty.
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Date: 2010-11-16 11:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-11-16 11:47 pm (UTC)Basically, your body is still adjusting to not being pregnant. Use more lube than you think you will need and take it slow. I never needed lube until the first 6-8 months after I gave birth. I was dry, couldn't get myself wet for anything, and it was pretty painful to have sex. The astroglide we had was given to me as a joke, but man did it come in handy. We used 1/2 the bottle (pretty big bottle too) before I started to feel like myself again.
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Date: 2010-11-16 11:52 pm (UTC)1) Reduced lubrication and/or thinned vaginal tissue, due to hormone changes from breastfeeding. Extra lube and going slowly, with lots of foreplay, would be the things to try for this.
2) Potential for yeast infection, or BV! Get checked by a doctor?
3) Scar tissue! I had a c-section, but somehow got some "blood blister" abscesses vaginally anyway. They were lanced at the gyno's (which hurt a lot; the novocain or whatever it was... was not working well!), and for many months after, initial entry would have some degree of pain or discomfort -- basically, the tip of his penis would hit the back of my vagina, where the scars were, and they didn't take kindly to that. Over years, this has become a non-problem.
If it's scar tissue, I'd talk with a doctor and ask if there's any creams you can use vaginally to facilitate healing. I'd also try having your spouse do gentle fingering, and see if you two can figure out if it's hurting all around, or just where the scar tissue is. It's possible that you can find a position where entry doesn't bash against the scar. Your husband probably has a curve to his penis of some degree (having a slight curve is the norm, far as I know), and you may be able to adjust y'all's relative positions so that the curve is not positioned to poke you in sore spots.
4) Vaginismus. This is a blink-reflex of the vaginal muscles, tightening up in anticipation of pain, and to try to prevent penetration. Depending on how your birthing experience was, your vagina (and/or your subconscious) may be going, "Do not want anything in there! Ever! Again!" And it'd have to re-learn that, no, really, sometimes this is great fun. For this, ideally you'd want a Pelvic Pain Specialist, but if you wanted to try treating it "on the cheap," comments on http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/19126649.html have both some suggestions for things you could do at home, and a link to a probably-even-more-useful site about vaginismus. (Even if you do not currently have vaginismus, try to avoid having painful penetration, so you don't develop it...)
I hope something here helps!
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Date: 2010-11-17 06:47 am (UTC)Most of the time I just push past the pain/discomfort and then it's good, although I'm very sore afterwards. :/
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Date: 2010-11-17 03:47 am (UTC)If you wanna try coconut oil both my sister and I (I've never given birth) recommend Nutiva organic extra virgin coconut oil. It revitalized her sensitive parts after giving birth, and for me has been EXTREMELY helpful/has revolutionized my sex life.
Worth a try, hope you feel better :)