A Strange Question...

[violet1995.livejournal.com]

Ok guys,
Here it is- I live with roommates, like share a room, and my bf lives with his parents, so they are okay letting me spend the night over.... but I get really loud during sex, like i can't control it, and if i do try to be quiet, i don't get the same pleasure out of the experience....like when I have an orgasm a let out sort of a scream... i tried putting a hand in my mouth, but then it throws off the orgasm.... i'm just embarrased his parents hear me, and being so loud i think they do... do any of you girls have a similar experience? any tricks? thanks:)

Comments

[archangelbeth]

If and only if you were comfortable with the idea of a bit of kink-play, you might look at some form of gag. (I would not suggest a home-made one, because the obvious "wad up a scarf" trick could trigger a gag-reflex, full-on choking, etc.) Something easily releasable, obviously (velcro, perhaps), that dampened the sound from start to finish. (I would also advise coming up with a "safe-gesture" to signal if something is wrong and you need him to stop RIGHT NOW, even before you could get the gag off.)

Other than that... Maybe try positions that are face-down or spooning, so you could yell into the pillow? Perhaps practice a different style of orgasm (which may not be as satisfying, at the least at first) of holding your breath?

Good luck!

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

If you want to go kinky but aren't ready for a gag, you could have HIM cover your mouth. My partner does that when we have to be quiet, and it's super hot.

[starsweeper05.livejournal.com]

This! I love that.

[violet1995.livejournal.com]

I did that last night:) I asked my bf to cover my mouth with his hand, so i screamed into his hand, like stiffled screams... and he was so nice, he let me bite into it when i was cumming.... a nice experience

[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

Turn the TV or radio up loudly. But that may give you away too. ;)

[x-hypatia-x.livejournal.com]

So, I think you're gonna have to learn to be quiet. I'm into kink-play, at least some ways, so for me, I sort of trained myself into thinking about how it's hot that I have to be quiet. That threw me off at first, but eventually I got used to it. I think if you stick with either being quiet or biting a pillow or something, in the future, it'll become easier and less distracting. Sorry I don't have any better suggestions. :( But honest, it only took about a dozen times or so for me to get adjusted.

[starpulses.livejournal.com]

This.
When I have to be quiet, I often find sex more intense as I channel 'screaming energy' into other ways of feeling good and showing that I'm feeling good. This leads to lip-biting, much more eye contact with my partner, and gripping (bed, partner, myself), all very hot.

[caterpillgry.livejournal.com]

Good suggestions above. I really think that it's important to try to be respectful of the other people in the house and muffle yourself as much as possible... when people overhear screams (as opposed to unavoidable possible sex noises) it's really making them unwilling participants in your sex life. I had a roommate who wouldn't shut up when her bf stayed over, and I felt really, really disrespected.

[yaymyson.livejournal.com]

Until recently i had upstairs neighbours who had incredibly loud sex, so much so that it would wake me up. I never knew what to do (go for a walk? read? sleeping was not an option), and one night just roared, "Keep it down!" There was immediate silence, so i followed it with a chipper, "Thanks!"
I hate to spoil someone's good time, but man, everybody needs sleep!

[damnedemily.livejournal.com]

LOL!

[vaguemotives.livejournal.com]

Not to go on a complete tangent or attack either of you personally in any way, but complaints like these always sort of get under my skin, to be honest.

Roommates, I can somewhat understand. Apartments, however, I disagree. While, of course, sometimes people don't have a choice financially but to live in an apartment. Still, when you live in one you know what you're getting into. You are paying less because you get less privacy. You share walls, or floors, or ceilings with people. Now, if I pay my rent, and you pay your rent then I think either of us has the right to do whatever the hell we want in our own homes - even if it might annoy the other. Yes, even have loud sex. Lest' it is some obscene hour of the night in the middle of the school/work week, I really don't give a shit if you want me to "keep it down" while I'm having sex. I'm not paying my hard earned money on rent to live in my home to not be able to have sex the way I want to have sex. And I'd expect the same from my neighbors. They pay their rent. If they want to blast music I loathe, have loud sex, allow their children to scream and throw tantrums, whatever, I really don't think I should get to say they can't.

[sequence-fairy.livejournal.com]

I had to learn quiet when I lived in a dorm (hello paper thin walls) and in my second year apartment. However, now that my partner and I have our own place, I am no longer capable of quiet.

So, burying my face in his shoulder, biting a pillow/him/my knuckles, you know, whatever's handy...seems to deaden it a little. But damn, I love me some loud sexing.

If you're up for it and the weather is nice, find somewhere secluded outside and let it all out. It's really freeing!