Too wet?

[speckled-hen.livejournal.com]

This is probably the opposite problem to most people, but when I get aroused I get too wet. As in, I will produce enough of my own lube to not need any extra if we have sex anywhere else, as it were.

I know in part this is a good thing but at the same time it's very annoying for things like my partner fingering/masturbating me or having penetrative sex as there's literally no friction! I've always been like this so I guess I've learned how to handle myself but it's begun to really annoy me. It's got to the point that my partner loses his erection whenever he gets inside me because there's no friction there, and the other night we were fooling around and I just couldn't come because it was all too slick. It's never been a problem before, other than guys mentioning in passing that I get very wet, but with my current partner it seems like a huge issue and my sex life is suffering because of it!

Is there anything I can do or take to reduce the amount of wetness I produce?

Comments

[slightly-frayed.livejournal.com]

I know there are certain medications that have a side effect of reducing a woman's natural lubrications, but I don't think there's anything made specifically for it.

I sometimes have problems getting wet because I'm on anti-depressants and HBC. It's a combination of both for me, but I know birth control has been said to cause changes on its own. Unfortunately it's different with everyone so it's nearly impossible to say "Put yourself on ____".

Good luck finding something, though! It sucks when your body works against you instead of with you.

[mariposa2384.livejournal.com]

I don't know what to tell you, but if it helps I'm exactly the same.

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

Me, too. And birth control made it worse!

[pixelchild.livejournal.com]

Same here. The wet patch on the bed is invariably my fault, not his >.

[mirxlucius.livejournal.com]

Use a tissue, perhaps?

[paperispatient.livejournal.com]

I don't have any suggestions, but I get really wet too. It's never been a problem, but one time when my partner spent a long time going down on me, afterwards he grabbed a roll of paper towels to wipe up himself and the couch. Oops.

[speckled-hen.livejournal.com]

Oh dear! My partner won't go down on me because of it :(
I do wipe and do the whole tissue thing but I'd just like to (for once) not be dripping wet!

[paperispatient.livejournal.com]

That really sucks, I'm sorry! :\ My partner was mostly amused by it, but that was the only time I felt at all self-conscious with him, when he had to mop his face up afterwards.

[stfnihippo.livejournal.com]

Oh, I have this same problem. /:
Its really annoying, I know.

[http://users.livejournal.com/hallo_seele_/]

Well hell, at least I'm not the only one.

[box-of-rocks.livejournal.com]

I wonder if medications to dry up your runny nose would also make you a little less wet? It's probably not something that's good to do all the time, but perhaps it's worth asking the gyno about.

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

Generic cetirizine (Zirtek) dries me up a bit. It's sold as a one a day antihistamine and is available in chemists and most supermarkets.

[avenathus.livejournal.com]

I used to have this problem, but then I changed birth control and now my lube comes and goes, heh.

We would usually just stop and towel off a little, then keep going. That seemed to help.

[jadeserenity.livejournal.com]

I don't really enjoy having sex in the shower because the water running over us will wash away my natural lube and I don't produce a ton of it normally. But that might work out really well for you.

[dilligaf-ftw-9.livejournal.com]

Don't mean to be condecending, but you do know that is the idea of sexual excitement? That ideally you do not need artificial lube because your vag gets wet on its own?

Some American problem again, I believe. I (european) have never used lube, beside for anal play. And that is the way our bodies are made. They get wet when aroused, as to make the coitus more pleasurable...

If your boyfriend doesn't like that, educate him in regards of what a compliment it is to him.

[atashida.livejournal.com]

^ I think the OP understands that, but her problem is that she's producing so much wetness that she's losing friction and therefore pleasure. Which does make sense, if you know the basics of physics (can't believe I remember that actually...).

[lupinelullaby.livejournal.com]

When you're so lubricated that there is absolutely no friction, it actually makes coitus less pleasurable. And I have this same problem unfortunately.

To the OP: Someone mentioned this above, and I can confirm it. I've noticed that some decongestant medications help to dry me up a tad, since they are designed to dry up mucous membranes. But I wouldn't recommend using this method often if you're not actually having congestion issues.

Good luck and I feel your pain!

[argyle-skull.livejournal.com]

I have the same problem and haven't found too much to help yet. I tried taking Benadryl to dry up a bit but I had a bad reaction and had to stop. I'm trying to work on my kegels because the added, uhm, grasp, is supposed to help. Aside from that, just a towel to wipe up. It's frustrating. I hope you find something that works!

[altorogue.livejournal.com]

Benadryl actually isn't a decongestant, it's an antihistamine, more for stopping allergic reactions than actually drying out or relieving pressure. Sudafed perhaps, if you're looking for a decongestant?

To the OP: ME TOO! Sometimes I have to wait a bit for me to dry out and then it's better again!

[confused90.livejournal.com]

less foreplay?

[terrorlynn.livejournal.com]

Adding my voice to the chorus of "me too!"'s. It gets so damn frustrating sometimes, that i have literally asked lovers to pretty much sneak sex up on me so that at least for a little bit, my lady bits are too shocked with the awesome attention to get too slip-and-slide-esque. I have become the master of the mid-sex, position change wipe with my hand/towel/sheet/anything more absorbent than my lovers face/bits. Drives me crazy sometimes, though :(

[skeas.livejournal.com]

I agree with this! I'm not too wet all the time (my vag likes to be fickle), but we always keep a sex towel by the bed. When it starts getting too wet, I just wipe it off. And somehow the act of getting fingered tends to dry me out a bit, so my boyfriend will do that before sex.

[laisah.livejournal.com]

Haha. this is too funny. I'm the master of mid switch, hide the towel routines too! I say keep a towel handy, I wouldn't recommend medications unless you are really really fed up with it. Then I'd go for the allergy medicines ((or alcohol))