Painful Sex update - SUCCESS! NO PAIN!!
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First off-Thanks SO MUCH to everyone on this community!
My gf kept with the stretching like Cora had described (and like I wrote inthe last update) and it slowly got easier, she moved through the dilators one at a time and eventually got to the biggest one. That big one, we compared, is just barely smaller than me, so she figured when she's comfortable enough using the big one, we can try it with me. Well this week that finally happened and I FIT! :) ALL the way!
I'm too excited, I'm skipping the story:)
The "homework" Cora assigned kept being modified here and there, but my gf reports the best progress like this - 5 minutes of stretching around hte "bottom half of the clock" as described in the last update, then 10 minutes of just sitting with the biggest dilator in place. Nothing moving, no active stretching, just getting used to it being in there and beign relaxed. Then 1-2 mintues of stretching straight down to 6 o'clock, fairly hard, with a finger-sized object. She has a real sore spot there that was explained to be a bundle of nerves which have become 'stuck together', kind of like when you boil pasta without any oil. In pushing at that space, it's supposed ot "separate the noodles" she said, and go from crazy sharp pain to duller pain to nothing. It's not nothing yet, but my GF reports that it's not sharp anymore, and when we finally put our parts together this week, she reported NO PAIN AT ALL.
It's sooooo good. I've never gone this long without sex since I started having it, so it's kind of good for me to go slow with her too. She says it feels pretty weird right now, she wasn't doing anything sexual when she dilated, so now she has to kind of switch tracks from clinical thing-to-accomplish to actually feeling good. It's going well though, we had our second time yesterday and she didn't report any pain, less weirdness, and it was maybe 10 minutes before she started to feel rubbed raw on the inside - which I expected, so no surprise there.
For those wondering, yeah, I thought about having sex with someone else just to get me through. It's been almost two years! But I never did it once, I never betrayed her, and I'm really glad I didn't. :)
ANYWAY, yeah! so I guess that's the last update! Again, THANK YOU to everyone who ever commented or offered advice or support or anything - you've all been wonderful and I'm so glad I can report back with SUCCESS!!
First off-Thanks SO MUCH to everyone on this community!
My gf kept with the stretching like Cora had described (and like I wrote inthe last update) and it slowly got easier, she moved through the dilators one at a time and eventually got to the biggest one. That big one, we compared, is just barely smaller than me, so she figured when she's comfortable enough using the big one, we can try it with me. Well this week that finally happened and I FIT! :) ALL the way!
I'm too excited, I'm skipping the story:)
The "homework" Cora assigned kept being modified here and there, but my gf reports the best progress like this - 5 minutes of stretching around hte "bottom half of the clock" as described in the last update, then 10 minutes of just sitting with the biggest dilator in place. Nothing moving, no active stretching, just getting used to it being in there and beign relaxed. Then 1-2 mintues of stretching straight down to 6 o'clock, fairly hard, with a finger-sized object. She has a real sore spot there that was explained to be a bundle of nerves which have become 'stuck together', kind of like when you boil pasta without any oil. In pushing at that space, it's supposed ot "separate the noodles" she said, and go from crazy sharp pain to duller pain to nothing. It's not nothing yet, but my GF reports that it's not sharp anymore, and when we finally put our parts together this week, she reported NO PAIN AT ALL.
It's sooooo good. I've never gone this long without sex since I started having it, so it's kind of good for me to go slow with her too. She says it feels pretty weird right now, she wasn't doing anything sexual when she dilated, so now she has to kind of switch tracks from clinical thing-to-accomplish to actually feeling good. It's going well though, we had our second time yesterday and she didn't report any pain, less weirdness, and it was maybe 10 minutes before she started to feel rubbed raw on the inside - which I expected, so no surprise there.
For those wondering, yeah, I thought about having sex with someone else just to get me through. It's been almost two years! But I never did it once, I never betrayed her, and I'm really glad I didn't. :)
ANYWAY, yeah! so I guess that's the last update! Again, THANK YOU to everyone who ever commented or offered advice or support or anything - you've all been wonderful and I'm so glad I can report back with SUCCESS!!
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