the right thing, or worrying over nothing??

[spudy-massacre.livejournal.com]

So I have an issue that I can certainly use some advice on.

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Great relationship, love him very much, all that. However, we haven't had sex in eight months. The reason is that I had gotten off the Pill, and I'm so, so scared about possibly becoming pregnant if I have sex without it. I can't even trust just condoms. My boyfriend understands my beliefs and respects them, but I can tell that it sometimes bothers him although he would never say it to me. We do try to have fun in other ways besides full-on intercourse, but sometimes, it just isn't the same.

So I'm wondering, am I really being paranoid over nothing? Am I doing the right thing? I started a new job not too long ago and am not eligible for benefits, so I really can't afford Birth Control Pills right now.  I know that I wouldn't be able to provide for a baby in case something did happen, which is why I'm resisting temptation all the time...but is it worth it? I sometimes lose sleep wondering if my boyfriend is one day going to get so frustrated that he'll just leave me or get his kicks with someone else...

I guess I just wonder if I'm worrying over nothing and if there is anyone else who is maybe going through a similar situation...and how do they get through it?

Comments

[xoxriotgrrl.livejournal.com]

If you combine condoms with another form of birth control, you should be fine. Realistically, using just condoms would be fine, but I understand if you're a bit paranoid about that. My boy and I use condoms, withdrawal, spermicide, and FAM, simply because I don't respond well to HBC. Yes, it's a lot of work to track my fertility, and sometimes we have to interrupt ourselves during play to slip on a condom and put a VCF in place, but it works. Really, percentage wise, by taking a condom and adding ANY other type of birth control/contraception to the mix, you're extremely close to 100% protected. Recently I got a pamphlet from PP, and it states that just with a condom and withdrawal, it's considered 100% effective done perfectly, otherwise around 98%. So don't worry too much, and I hope everything works out for you!