Why do we always freak? Discussion

[katastrophe1187.livejournal.com]

I have been a member of vaginapagina for about a year now. It is one of my favorite sites and has helped me in more ways than one many times. However,I always notice that there are freak out posts. Late periods, pregnancy symptoms, fear of pill not working etc. Now I'm not ragging on anyone, I have posted a number of those posts myself. What I want to know is why do we do it? We are all smart, sophisticated, modern day people, so why when something isnt right do we assume pregnancy? Why is it the worst thing that can happen? Why can't we think clearly even though we know we are being irrational?

I dont know. Does it have something to do with society? And how pregnancy is percieved? Or how abortion has been red flagged as "the evilest of evils?" Are we subconsciously playing into the hands of those who want us to be afraid, despite knowing better?

As I said I don't know. But I know I hate myself after I have a "freak attack," I just want to know if anyone else out there feels the same or understands what I am saying.

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Sorry if this makes no sense, it's a darvocet night...

[ldy-shadow.livejournal.com]

On the broad-spectrum why it happens point, everything I had planned to say was covered above by queensugar in a far more eloquent and less verbose manner than I would have put it.

Personally? I freak out for a lot of reasons, but they're all very personal.

I'm a single mom, rasied catholic. There will forever in my head be my grandmother's voice telling me over and over what a horrible person I am and how horrible I'm being to my children for being a single mother, let alone one with potentially different fathers/per child. (I only have one right now, but that's what I hear when I have a pregnancy scare. "You tramp, you're a single mother to begin with, how horrible must your daughter look to everyone else, now you're having another baby with a man who doesn't want either of you? You're going to hell!")

Raising a child on my own has been filled with many concessions and blows to my pride. The thought of having to repeat that again... *shudders* I don't know if I (or anyone around me, I tend to get volatile when I have to ask for help,) would survive it.

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[svexsal.livejournal.com]

I can understand this. My sister in-law is of the same religious mindset and though I am not, we get into fights all the time when I mention that I have always envisioned myself pregnant before marriage.

I don't even know why I picture this happening to me but I don't see anything wrong with that future for myself. And I don't see anything wrong with you doing so. It takes a lot of strength to do so.

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[ldy-shadow.livejournal.com]

There isn't anything wrong with it - honestly, if I were given a chance to go back and change the past three years starting with the night of my daughter's conception, I wouldn't alter a thing. Well... maybe who I chose to sleep with that night (I feel that she would have been conceived regardless, but that's a whole 'nother thread to hijack...) but other than that, nothing would change.

Honestly, before I was in the relationship I just ended, I had a five year plan to be pregnant again this year through a donor!

That doesn't mean I don't still hear my grandmother's ranting in my head when my period is scary late, though. ;)

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[archangelbeth]

I wish I had magic words to express my support of you. You're not horrible. And, speaking as someone who danced when my parents FINALLY got a divorce? There are worse things for the kid than having a single mom. I wish my mom'd had that realization before I ran off and got married myself. (Then I wouldn't have had to invite my sire to the wedding, for one.)

*offers a supportive internet hug*

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[ldy-shadow.livejournal.com]

*hugs you back* Thanks, love. I like to think that through lots of therapy and many many drugs for my head that I've grown considerably as a person - I broke the smothering bonds of my parents' religious views, developed past their body/sexuality phobic stigmas, and in general I like to think I'm a pretty well-adjusted, open minded individual.

When it comes to pregnancy scares, though, I still hear my grandmother preaching fire and brimstone. It fades after a while. (You know, when the test comes back negative. ;))

(For the record, just so there's no hatin' on my grannie... she was still alive to see my daughter's birth, and once she realized that DD had inherited the standard traits of the family - red hair and hazel eyes - and didn't come out with the horns that her father surely must have had, she was more than happy to forget about my transgressions and love on her great granddaughter.)

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[archangelbeth]

I'm so glad that your gran was able to appreciate her great-granddaughter after all. O:> *does the internet snug thing*