men declining sex

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

i never fail to feel hurt when my BF declines sex. it's super silly because when i'm not in the mood he is completely accepting. BUT, if i initiate and he turns me down it becomes a huge issue for me. as in, we need to have a 2 hour long conversation for me to feel okay about it.

anyone else this way? it makes me feel bad because he's a person not a sex machine and he is TOTALLY entitled to his own personal sex drive, it just ends up making me feel vulnerable and stupid when i want sex and he doesn't.

also, we have great sex all the time and it is the most healthy and fufilling sexual relationship i've ever had.

Comments

[marnanel.livejournal.com]

*nods* I think everyone feels this way about sex being rejected by their partners, even if the feeling isn't rational. (Of course as you say he has every right not to be in the mood when you want sex just as you have every right not to be in the mood when he wants sex; but you can't really argue with your emotions that way, any more than he can.) Maybe the best thing is to sit down and talk it over together.

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

yeah, the problem is he's so cute and understanding that he'll always talk with me about it. i feel a bit like a drama queen by the end almost always (like i should be able to deal with it myself)

[wenchlette.livejournal.com]

I don't. :)