Erectile Dysfunction?

[thatgirluhate.livejournal.com]

I'm having a difficult time finding legitimate advice on the internet about a very "sensitive" problem I'm having...

For the last seven years I'd only ever been with one man - he is now 37 years old. We broke things off and were seeing other people for nearly a year. In that time, I took up with a 23 year old man. It was the best sex of my life! Never before had I had an orgasm during intercourse.

Long story short, I am now back with My Old Man (and happy as a lark). However, I've noticed that in comparison to my 23 year old partner, my "Old Man" doesn't seem to get as erect. He can certainly achieve an erection, but it doesn't feel as - hard.

I'd mentioned my conundrum to my doctor (a man of similar age - 40). He insists that it is age related. As he is not a urologist, he was unable to give me advice on how to help my man achieve a firmer erection.

Help! I'm determined to stay with this man for the rest of my life, but I'd hate to think that at the young age of 24, I'll be missing out on amazing sex - for the rest of my life!

Thanks in advance for any advice you ladies can impart!

Comments

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

I would definitely say check his blood pressure and things that would effect it. My boyfriend is (eek) 51 (I'm 21) and I can tell whether or not he's taken his blood pressure med's for the previous couple of days by how hard (or not) he is.

[thatgirluhate.livejournal.com]

That's super helpful - thanks! He'd had a bit of a problem with BP in the past, and we'd chalked it up to stress, but it certainly worth looking into. I'm gonna check that out tonight!

[totheleft.livejournal.com]

oh, wow! certainly not criticizing, just commenting, but a 30 year age gap! do you find any problems?

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

When it's just the 2 of us, no; it's everybody else who has an issue with it (and their only issue is the age thing). Him and I have been best-friends for 3-4 years now and just recently started dating. We've been through so much together as friends (each of us were in bad marriages, etc.) and it's made our romantic relationship so much stronger both in and out of bed. We have friends and family who support us as well as others who don't, but we're working through it...

[archangelbeth]

Woo! You've beat my 17-year-age-gap with my spouse! (He's... Hm. Lessee, I think I'm 36, because it's 2008 and I'll be 37 when the birthday rolls around, yes... So add 17, that gets 53. Yeah. Met him at 17 (twice my age!), moved up here at 18, married at 19.)

I will make sure mine keeps an eye on his blood pressure, too. Thanks for mentioning it. O:>

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

Hooray for younger gals! Yeah his blood pressure is right on the edge of being high enough to be on meds so he's on them just to keep everything in check, ya know those strokes tend to screw things up... ;)

[kelsietrpt.livejournal.com]

Yay! Another gal who had a 30 year age gap with her significant other!

I was in a relationship for two years with a man thirty years older than me (same age, too--21 and 51). It was a marvelous two years, and despite my parents temporarily disowning me and the world treating me with a mixture of pity and contempt, I wouldn't take those two years back for the world.

*offers mutual support*

-Kelsie

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I'm loving every minute of it! We've been best-friends for 3-4 years now and just recently started dating/sleeping together and it's been the best relationship I've been in so far. Yeah we're getting to the point where we're telling people and having to deal with the backlash of the age thing. Luckily my 2 closest friends support me so I have them but the parentals are not liking it so much...

[chantalzola.livejournal.com]

My father is 30 years older than my mother. My father is 85, my mother 55 and I am 25. I ahve never met someone whose parents have that much of an age difference or someone dating with that much of an age difference. I'd love to talk to you, if that's possible.

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

Wow, that's totally awesome to hear. I'm going through that whole thought process right now of "Ok, when I'm this age he's going to be this age, can I deal with that?" I would love to talk to you as well.

[chantalzola.livejournal.com]

I'm adding you to my friends list, if you have aim, let me know and I'll pm you my aim name.

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

Ok, I'll add you too. I have AIM as well, I'm TroubleMakerC.