Sex on Top?

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

This might be a weird question, but anyone have any tips for riding on top?
I just can't seem to get it right.

Edit: No problem getting his penis in -- the problem is starting and getting that in-and-out motion.

Comments

[arularia.livejournal.com]

My first attempt at girl-on-top was awkward and didn't work at all, but then I figured out how to position myself. I had been trying to get on top of my partner like he would get on top of me, but our anatomy just didn't line up. Finally, I straddled his hips as if I were just going to sit down and that did the trick. Sometimes his bits need a bit of manual help to get inside, other times I can just slide down him with no problem. I think it might be a little easier to achieve penetration if I lean over him slightly at first, kind of like if I was going to go down on all fours. After he's in, I can sit back up, lean back, or do whatever.

Hope that helps. If you edit your post with some more information as to what exactly the problem is, maybe you could get some more specific advice.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

thanks for the suggestion!

[emily-arete.livejournal.com]

There was a post about this just a little while ago; look back a few pages and see if you can find it.
Personally, I've only rarely gotten it to work, and it hasn't felt good for me even when it has.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

oh, must have missed it. i'll check - thanks!

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

yes, thanks!

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

The first time I rode cowgirl, I just kind of straddled him, faced him, and braced my hands on his shoulders or put my hands on the bed to thrust. It works better if he holds your hips and helps out with the thrusting.

What exactly are you having trouble with?

[jenninhtown.livejournal.com]

I lean forward and then either him or I control penetration. It's not a position I can get off in since I need a free hand and it's not comfortable nor easy that way.

[jenninhtown.livejournal.com]

I should note that when I say lean forward, my hands are either side of his shoulders usually.

LOL

[emilyzilch.livejournal.com]

*sigh* now I'm getting nostalgic...

Re: LOL

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

??

Re: LOL

[emilyzilch.livejournal.com]

I'm a lesbian transwoman. In the longbeforetime, I was the mountee. (I mean, I still can be, but the phallus is no longer made out of me.) So I was nostalgic for the time when I was the mountee because it felt good. Well, better. It still can feel good :-)

Re: LOL

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

hehe oh ok

[melisjesus.livejournal.com]

Practice! Hehe!

I started out all awkward-like but have gotten into the swing of things now...maybe I was thinking about it too much?

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

ya, im probably thinking about it too much also.

[jewliejewels.livejournal.com]

lol,my bf likes when or if i sit on him like im sitting in a chair,i dont know why,its a weird position,i cant explain how it goes

i can do it but sometimes my legs get all crampy feeling and i need to switch positions

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

ah thats a good suggestion, thanks.

[pixelcrystals.livejournal.com]

What I do is sitting on him and start moving my body as if dancing with your hip front and back. Like those Latino dance. I hope that makes sense. He loves it a lot!

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

hm. so does that create more of a grinding or an in-and-out motion?

[pixelcrystals.livejournal.com]

Both. So you sit down on him and grind it in and out.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

ahh got ya
thx!

[http://users.livejournal.com/_andshesays/]

I am more about sitting down so they're all the way inside of me, then moving my hips back and forth/in circles instead of up and down sort of motion. It stimulates my clit which is pretty groovy, too!

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

i think thats where my problem is - trying to create an in-and-out motion from doing up and down....maybe i just need to focus on my hips moving to create a grind?

[preciouslilme.livejournal.com]

It depends whether he likes more of the thrusting or the grinding really. The grinding for me and my SO works better. What I do is get him in has far as I can (it sometimes involves shifting my legs one he's in), get him to hold my hips and he helps guide me backwards and forwards.

[jenninhtown.livejournal.com]

"It depends whether he likes more of the thrusting or the grinding really."

Yes, important point. Some guys (and gals) like different things. My SO doesn't get anything out of the grinding thing, and neither do I for that matter, so it's thrusting for us.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

ahh ok!

[leastlikely.livejournal.com]

For something really intimate, I love if he sits up (on the couch works best) and then I... basically just sit on him. I can sit on my knees and hug him and it's really easy to move.

For something less intimate, we like to start with 'reverse cowgirl' and then I lay down with my head by his feet. I can support myself with my arms to help with the motion... and he can also hold my hips and help me thrust.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

i like that first suggestion. are you able to lean all the way back, like hanging upside down?

[leastlikely.livejournal.com]

It probably depends on what type of furniture you're using, and how flexible you are! It's not something I could do personally, because my hip gets dislocated sometimes D:

But I bet it could totally work out nicely for some couples!!

[glasspumpkin.livejournal.com]

I find that when I'm on top, if I sit straight up it is very difficult for us to have the in/out thrusting; instead, it's more of a grinding that we both find very sexy. In order to have the in/out thrusting, I lean forward and brace myself on the headboard or wrap my arms under his neck, and he grabs onto my hips and we both work at the thrusting. I find this kind to be very pleasurable. :)

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

grinding = moving your hips around while he's inside?

[glasspumpkin.livejournal.com]

yes, exactly :)

[arularia.livejournal.com]

When I'm on top and actually controlling the action, like others have said, it's more of a grinding motion than the typical in-and-out. (I don't bother with bouncing on top of him, I just grind my hips forward and backward.) He and I both really like the feeling. Sometimes I'll also kind of lay down on his chest with my butt slightly elevated and then he can thrust his hips for a more traditional range of motion. Both ways feel pretty damn good.

Hope one of those works for you.

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

this was very helpful.
i always thought that being on top still needed that in and out motion. now that i know it's mostly moving my hips to grind.
thanks!

[arularia.livejournal.com]

Honestly, there's really no right or wrong way to do it. If it feels good then you're doing it right. :)

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

:) thx

[chaosconfetti.livejournal.com]

I discovered this will intoxicated one day, and once I got it right the first time, was much better afterwards :P My problem was that I was doing an up-and-down motion. It felt nice, but I could never get a rhythm.

Then, instead of doing that, I arched my back a little and... I don't know how well I can describe... thrusted forwards as opposed to upwards? Like, a back and fourth gyrating type of deal. That worked a LOT better. Also, I found that when doing that, he went a lot less deep, which was a good thing for me. (I'm very small. He's very not. Causes trouble :P)

Still, for us at least, there are a thousand positions that work better, so we don't do it often. Normally just if he gets a cramp in his leg or something :P

[afternoonlovein.livejournal.com]

thank you!