Tubes Tied...

[knblondie.livejournal.com]

I am currently 30 weeks 5 days prego with boy #2. I am married. I am 24. At my last OB appt my docotor joking asked if we were going to keep trying to have a girl. I informed him that we were done at 2 kids as that is an ideal number for me and my husband. I am having a plan c-section this time around due to tons of issues during the first labor. (PLEASE DON'T TALK TO ME ABOUT OTHER OPTIONS, I HAVE WEIGHED THEM ALL OUT). My doctor asked if I wanted my tubes tied while he was delivering my son. I really didn't have an answer. I had never though it. I mean after all I am only 24. Now that I have thought about it I would like to hear other stories of women who have it done. I know it would be nice to have a "permanent" form of BC. But I also feel like I would be losing my woman-hood. I am just not sure I am ready for that big step.

I would just love to hear everyone's opinion. I was also totally shocked that the dcotor suggested it since I am, well at least I feel, so young.

Thanks in advance,
Katie

Comments

[wenchlette.livejournal.com]

As someone that's a child of a woman who lost her fertility at the age of 23 (she has her uterus removed due to hemhorraging complications that were still occurring 9 weeks post-partum), I'm happy that she didn't see her inability to have further children as a loss of her womanhood. I'm now in a position where conceiving a child and maintaining a pregnancy would be a long process, involving lots of monetary resources and still consider myself very much a woman.

That being said, I totally understand what you're thinking. It's a base thing, I think, the ability to have kids being linked to your having good feelings towards your womanhood.

As with everyone else - vasectomy = less invasive! :)