sex after baby?

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Hello vulva-loving superstars.

I gave birth two months ago. I did everything I was supposed to by way of pelvic-floor toning but when push came to shove and my 20-hour home birth was nearly over, I pushed my baby out so hard and so fast that I tore. The midwives and I decided not to place any stitches and just let it heal on its own. The tear itself is really only about an inch and a half long, and it's pretty jagged. Now, everything is healed up and to my knowledge, everything is fully functional. However, I am terrified of having sex again. Don't get me wrong- I want to, badly. It's just that the scar tissue from the tear makes the tissues feel so firm, like they have absolutely no give anymore and I'm scared of the logistics. Prior to babyage, I had some pain when having sex with my husband because there's also a bit of a size issue there.

How does one get over this? How does one function normally sexually again? Can anyone relate to this?

TIA.

(PS- I checked the history and I couldn't find anything like this. If there is something I missed, please link me and I'll read away)

Comments

[viellen]

I think so too, if it works for the skin, muscles, bone and fascia around the rest of the body, it'd make sense to me that it'd work for the vagina as well. There are actually massage therapists out there that work specifically with the female reproductive system; many of them do uterine and vaginal massage/manipulations (and, no, it's not sexual at all). Mayan Abdominal massage is known for that. For me, vaginal and uterine massage are just on the other side of the line for my comfort level, but I've heard positive feedback from women I know who were brave enough to try it out.