Pain during sex after period of celibacy?

[irishblue.livejournal.com]

Hey!

So, here's the deal: I'm sexually active with my boyfriend, the same one I lost my virginity too. Anyway, we have sex regularly, but I've noticed that if we don't for a little while, I get...erm, tighter. At least, it seems like I do. Example, during the 2 weeks of finals at my school, we didn't have sex for a while and when we finally did...ow. Big ow.

Well, we're in two different places for the summer and have been apart for about a month and a half now. And he's coming to visit in two weeks and we'll probably end up having sex.

Since it's been so long, I'm just nervous about the possible pain. Is there anything I can do? Also, has any one else experienced anything like this? Am I actually getting "tighter" or is it a mental thing?

Thanks in advance!

Comments

I have the same problem too...

[anon-musings.livejournal.com]

...and I don't think it's "all in your head." I've noticed the same thing happens to me if my bf and I go for a couple of weeks without having sex. It's a bit painful and uncomfortable at first but once we do it a few times it actually feels like my vagina "loosens up" somewhat and the discomfort disappears. It's not a lubrication issue because I normally produce lots of it and even though we use additional lube, it still feels a bit uncomfortable. We haven't had sex in two months, so I shudder to think how things will feel when we finally do!

I've been checked out by my gyn and there are no medical reasons for why this happens to me. I don't have any recommendations for how to ease the pain except using lots of lube and having as much sex as possible. Oh, I posted about this before and got quite a few responses from women who've experienced the same thing, so you're not alone! http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/10228188.html

Re: I have the same problem too...

[irishblue.livejournal.com]

While I don't want to say I'm, you know, happy you have the same problem (it does kinda suck), it's really comforting to know I'm not the only one experiencing it. Thank you so much!

Question: do you experience the abdominal pain more in any certain position? I don't really know what it is! I seem to experience it more when I'm on the bottom and I thought it was from me lifting my hips (sorry if that's TMI). I don't know if my boyfriend is, erm, able to hit my cervix (just wanna add it, it's all how you use it!), so I've been wondering for a long time what the pain in my abdomen was.

Re: I have the same problem too...

[anon-musings.livejournal.com]

The discomfort is more intense when I'm on top or bottom. If he's behind, there doesn't seem to be as much pain although the discomfort is still there.

Feel free to ask me any more questions if you want, I'm glad my post was of help to you! :)