explaining the nuvaring to men.

[tasse-de-the.livejournal.com]

Hi! Not sure if anyone's encountered this issue around here, but here goes! So I probably should have mentioned something about my being on the nuvaring before my new partner accidentally "found" it inside of me with his fingers last night. He kind of did a double-take and went "whoa - ho - ho! what's that?!?" and it was a bit of a mood-killer to say the least! Even after explaining it to him and answering many many questions, he's still a little weirded out by it, I think. I guess I'm wondering if there are any other girls out here who are dating guys who are just a little creeped out by the whole idea of the ring, and if so - how long did it take for them to become more comfortable with this? It's a pretty new relationship, and he is a bit younger and less *experienced* sexually than I am.

I absolutely love the ring, and it works incredibly well for me and my body, and I would never consider switching methods *only* because someone else is disgusted by the idea of the ring - though a part of me is a bit angry for feeling a need to justify my choosing this method over the pill to him - though that's seperate from the need to explain the practicalities of the ring to him, of course.

I've only had one other serious partner before, an ex-boyfriend of six years - who was completely comfortable with my using the ring - so this is definitely something I had never thought of before. Maybe that's why I completely forgot to mention it last night! Thoughts, girls?

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[cbackson.livejournal.com]

I've not had experience with the ring, but my fiancee was very skeptical of the IUD. It was mostly a lack of understanding--once he knew what it was and how it worked, he was comfortable with it. I think, frankly, that talking about it made him nervous at first because we really had to contemplate what an unplanned pregnancy would mean for us, and that can make a lot of men very nervous.