Relationship Milestones

[ruari-explained.livejournal.com]

I've recently started to see someone new and it got me thinking. How do you decided when to advance the relationship physically (ie kissing, oral, spending the night, sex)? Do you have a set amount of time, like 3 dates before having sex for example, or does it depend on the person?

I just feel silly thinking like "Well, on Tuesday I'll do this for the first time, and then when I see him next week, we'll go to third base. If things progress well, I'll let him stay over on the 23rd..."

Comments

[ncsu-lady.livejournal.com]

again, i'll vote for the relationship.

i had a friend that told me if you were a virgin, you should hold out on sex as long as you want. However if you are both not virgins, more than a month waiting is silly. Now i'm not saying i totally go with that advice but it does make some sense.

When i lost my virginity, we had been together 3 months but I also knew we weren't going to be together much longer. i just was tired of being a virgin.

With my now husband, we lasted about a week before having sex.