Relationship Milestones

[ruari-explained.livejournal.com]

I've recently started to see someone new and it got me thinking. How do you decided when to advance the relationship physically (ie kissing, oral, spending the night, sex)? Do you have a set amount of time, like 3 dates before having sex for example, or does it depend on the person?

I just feel silly thinking like "Well, on Tuesday I'll do this for the first time, and then when I see him next week, we'll go to third base. If things progress well, I'll let him stay over on the 23rd..."

Comments

[xdreamsofdramax.livejournal.com]

I don't have anything set in stone. I just do what feels right. For me that is a lot easier than setting something in stone. If I set it in stone and I do it sooner because it feels right, it would make me feel bad about doing it "too soon" and if I don't feel comfortable doing it at the set time, I'll start to wonder what's wrong. So I just let things go and see what happens. It's worked out well for me.