Orgasm??

[ultravioletlem.livejournal.com]

I've heard a lot of people say that when you have an orgasm you just "know," but I'm unsure as to whether I've had one or not. I'm a girl and I have a girlfriend, and for a while it was hard for me to climax, mainly for reasons relating to my depression. The first time she gave me oral was when I thought maybe I had had an orgasm, but it didn't feel like how I expected it to. My entire upper body was really tingly, and my hands were almost completely numb, and I had this feeling of general relief and a bit of elation that lasted for a while. So what makes me think it wasn't a "real" orgasm was because I didn't have any vaginal contractions or anything of that sort. Since then, whenever she gives me oral I have the same feeling of tingling, but I'm still not sure if what I'm experiencing counts as an orgasm. Any thoughts would be appreciated, thanks!

Comments

[jacquelinewas17.livejournal.com]

What I tend to think is:
So what if it's an orgasm or not? That's just a word! If you're enjoying yourself and you and your partner both strive to make each other sexually satisfied and explore what feels good and stop doing that which doesn't, it's a good situation. If it's not an orgasm, then just keep exploring things that feel good and eventually you'll have an orgasm. If it is an orgasm, well, still keep exploring things that feel good cause they're fun. In the end you end up happy either way =)

[lucidtheory.livejournal.com]

I would describe an orgasm as a pleasurable tension you can feel building that eventually breaks in waves of contractions of your pelvic floor/vaginal muscles. I'm sure people experience orgasms in different ways though - what you describe could be your body's way of going about it. All sorts of different things can happen during orgasms involving tingling, numbness, hearing/sight changes, etc.

Does your girlfriend orgasm from things you do to her, and can you feel it when she does? If you have a finger in her when she comes you can usually feel the contractions that happen (or even see them from the outside). I wouldn't worry about your own responses though, the more you focus on it and stress over it the more difficult it gets to climax. Just enjoy what your body does (and what gets done to you) and the right things will happpen :)