While it's true that the OP and her partner may not turn out to be sexually compatible, I don't think it's fair to treat her partner as if he's purposefully being a jerk, or anything like that. He just doesn't want sex. Most likely, he can't help that. There are a million possible reasons, from depression to physical problems to just going through a random lull in his sex drive. I don't think it's fair to blame him for it. He could be really struggling with this.
Also, I think it might help to think of it this way: if the roles were reversed and it was the OP complaining of a low sex drive impacting her relationship, we wouldn't suggest her partner should "dump her sorry ass". We'd express sympathy and support, and give her constructive suggestions. I think that perspective needs to be kept here, as well.
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Date: 2006-12-11 03:28 am (UTC)Also, I think it might help to think of it this way: if the roles were reversed and it was the OP complaining of a low sex drive impacting her relationship, we wouldn't suggest her partner should "dump her sorry ass". We'd express sympathy and support, and give her constructive suggestions. I think that perspective needs to be kept here, as well.