It is very much a human issue, and I also think more men need to be involved in it. It's unfortunately the loud obnoxious minority of men who ruin the reputation of the good guys that are out there and make it difficult.
I honestly can't offer you much advice, but right now you may just need some time. As some of the other respondents in this thread have stated, don't rush into anything. When you do feel ready, just be careful. Don't commit to anything before your sure.
Like I said before, my girlfriend has been through some bad relationships and we've talked at length about similar issues, such as feeling "unlovable" and "broken". In my experience, people end up going through a lot of crap in their lives, some of which can stir up these feelings. It's important to be open about these sort of things and especially in your case to remember it is NOT your fault. It can be hard, but try to stay positive. It's a big world, and somewhere out there I'm sure there's a guy who is right for you and will treat you with the honesty and respect you deserve.
What's happened in the past unfortunately can't be changed. What's important is to learn from it, accept it, and move on with your life in a positive way. I think you've already taken the first steps by reaching out for help, and that can be one of the hardest things to do.
I'm confident that you'll be fine and eventually fight the right guy. It may take some time and a little bit of trial and error, but you'll find him.
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Date: 2006-11-22 06:16 pm (UTC)I honestly can't offer you much advice, but right now you may just need some time. As some of the other respondents in this thread have stated, don't rush into anything. When you do feel ready, just be careful. Don't commit to anything before your sure.
Like I said before, my girlfriend has been through some bad relationships and we've talked at length about similar issues, such as feeling "unlovable" and "broken". In my experience, people end up going through a lot of crap in their lives, some of which can stir up these feelings. It's important to be open about these sort of things and especially in your case to remember it is NOT your fault. It can be hard, but try to stay positive. It's a big world, and somewhere out there I'm sure there's a guy who is right for you and will treat you with the honesty and respect you deserve.
What's happened in the past unfortunately can't be changed. What's important is to learn from it, accept it, and move on with your life in a positive way. I think you've already taken the first steps by reaching out for help, and that can be one of the hardest things to do.
I'm confident that you'll be fine and eventually fight the right guy. It may take some time and a little bit of trial and error, but you'll find him.