my partner has herpes

[-birkenstock.livejournal.com]

ok, we just found out that my fiancee has genital herpes.  i know that there is no 100% safe sex.. but i have a few questions regarding what is safer.

he has only had one outbreak, one small thing that blistered over and has now scabbed, and a little redness on the tip of his penis. 

obviously, we know not to have sex while he is having an outbreak, or if one is coming on.  does this include him performing oral sex on me?  he has never had a cold sore or anything, can it still be transmitted?  should we avoid oral sex all together, during an outbreak or not?

how long after the scab heals is it considered ok to have sex?

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[frolicnaked.livejournal.com]

Sorry for the repost, but I royally screwed up the HTML.

So... Even though I'm sure you're already researching, I thought I'd point you toward VP's Vulvapedia entry on Herpes (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=Herpes_%28HSV-1/HSV-2%29) as well as the Herpes Resource Center (http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_overview.cfm) from the American Social Health Association. If you don't find answers to your questions there, you might also want to consider calling the hotline (http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_hotline.cfm) for information specific situation.

Good luck, and I hope you find the answers you seek!